My ex is due in November and she has been quite vindictive so far in our divorce, so I am worried she will be using the kid as a weapon to hurt me. It seems like she is capable of saying whatever on an affidavit just to make me look like a bad person, lies or not. She has moved back to where her parents are (550 km away from where we lived) and I have taken a transfer to the same place to be by the child. She says that I only want shared custody because of less child support, when in fact money means nothing to me. I just want to be an equal parent
I have moved to where she is, and I have taken a big pay cut to do so, but she still expects I should pay based on my old inflated salary. I am hoping that I can get a judge to agree to my child support being based on my new wage right away, instead of my past T4s as they really are no longer applicable.
A few more details that make things complicated. She had an affair close to when she got pregnant. I do believe on timing that the child is mine, but I am requesting a paternity test as I do not want to be on the hook for this child if it turns out its not mine. She has also said that I will have to find out through lawyers when the kid is born, and has went so far as to not even tell me the gender of the baby because she is so angry at me. I do know her rough due date though, which should help.
With that information in hand, I was thinking that I will need to do an emergency custody hearing so I can at least see the baby right away.
Would I be able to do this if the paternity is still in question?
Should I be asking for a paternity test at the same time?
Do I have to start paying her CS right away, or should I wait till its sorted out in court?
I am thinking I have about a snowballs chance in hell of having any sort of shared custody arrangement with her when the child is a newborn. I also realize that this isn't practical and wouldn't be in the best interests of the child, as she is off work for maternity and I have to work. I am hoping that she chills out at some point and we could come to some sort of agreement as the child gets older, I get to have him/her more often.
We still haven't sorted out the matrimonial property, but my lawyer and myself have ran the numbers and it looks like on paper she is going to owe me money. Our marriage was only six months long and we have now been separated longer than we were married.
I was hoping to sort of the matrimonial property, the custody, child support, etc all at once as early as December if possible. Is that a good idea or should I be pushing to sort out this matrimonial property before the kid is born? We are only taking two months from now.
Any words of wisdom or advice for me? I dont want to waste all my money fighting a losing battle in court, but I do want to make sure I get to be as big of a part in my childs life as possible.
I have moved to where she is, and I have taken a big pay cut to do so, but she still expects I should pay based on my old inflated salary. I am hoping that I can get a judge to agree to my child support being based on my new wage right away, instead of my past T4s as they really are no longer applicable.
A few more details that make things complicated. She had an affair close to when she got pregnant. I do believe on timing that the child is mine, but I am requesting a paternity test as I do not want to be on the hook for this child if it turns out its not mine. She has also said that I will have to find out through lawyers when the kid is born, and has went so far as to not even tell me the gender of the baby because she is so angry at me. I do know her rough due date though, which should help.
With that information in hand, I was thinking that I will need to do an emergency custody hearing so I can at least see the baby right away.
Would I be able to do this if the paternity is still in question?
Should I be asking for a paternity test at the same time?
Do I have to start paying her CS right away, or should I wait till its sorted out in court?
I am thinking I have about a snowballs chance in hell of having any sort of shared custody arrangement with her when the child is a newborn. I also realize that this isn't practical and wouldn't be in the best interests of the child, as she is off work for maternity and I have to work. I am hoping that she chills out at some point and we could come to some sort of agreement as the child gets older, I get to have him/her more often.
We still haven't sorted out the matrimonial property, but my lawyer and myself have ran the numbers and it looks like on paper she is going to owe me money. Our marriage was only six months long and we have now been separated longer than we were married.
I was hoping to sort of the matrimonial property, the custody, child support, etc all at once as early as December if possible. Is that a good idea or should I be pushing to sort out this matrimonial property before the kid is born? We are only taking two months from now.
Any words of wisdom or advice for me? I dont want to waste all my money fighting a losing battle in court, but I do want to make sure I get to be as big of a part in my childs life as possible.
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