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8.3. Child Travel Related Expenses.
If one of the parties moves more than 100 miles from the other party’s home, 80% of all theadditional travel expenses for the children, such as plane, train, bus or auto, will be paid by the party who moves unless the parents both agree to another arrangement at that time.

8.4. National and International Travel.
Either party can obtain permission to take the children out of the state or the country for vacation purposes by notifying the residing parent in writing or by email with 30 days advance notice. Such notice will not be required in the event of a death or illness of a close family member, which only requires 48 hours notice. If a parent takes the children on vacation, he or she will provide contact information to the residing parent whenever possible. Both parties recognize that there are certain times such as camping trips or foreign travel where it may be difficult to provide specific contact information.

8.5. Passport[s].
To facilitate international travel, the residing parent will provide the traveling parent with a signed, notarized letter of permission (which includes the address and phone number of the residing parent) to be presented to airline and Customs officials in order for the children to be permitted to leave the country. The father will be responsible for securing and holding on to the passports, but the parents will split the cost of the application fees.

9.1. Parent Communications.
Both parties agree to communicate with each other as clearly as possible. They also agree to each establish an email account, whereby they can document problems with the child, request temporary changes in parenting time, notify each other of vacation plans, and express concerns over specific issues that may arise. All emails will be followed with a verbal confirmation in person, by phone or by voicemail to notify the other parent that an email has been sent to them.

9.2. Parent Child Communications.
Each party has the right to contact the children on a daily basis by phone. This call can take place between the hours of 5 p.m. and 7 p.m. This call will not be unreasonably denied by the residing parent, as long as it does not conflict with existing plans, scheduled events, or interfere with the child’s customary routine, thereby causing emotional discomfort.

9.3. Parent / Child Journal.
As a way to facilitate communications between the parties regarding daily events, immediate concerns, and information about the youngestchild’s well-being, a journal will be transferred from the parent who is giving the child to the other parent during exchange times, which will include any notations the transferring parent wishes to convey. Similar communications about the older child will take place either by phone or email.

9.4. Quarterly Meeting.
The parties will meet quarterly (or sooner if agreed) with a neutral party to discuss the children’s welfare and emotional development, or to resolve any outstanding issues between parties. This regularly scheduled meeting will take place quarterly on the first Tuesday of each quarter beginning August 2000 at 7 p.m., and will last for 30 minutes unless both parties agree to extend the meeting. The parties will notify each other of the issues they would like to address 7 days prior to the meeting, by email or letter. The meeting will take place at the neutral party’s home.

9.5. The Mutual Decision-Making Process.
Both parties recognize that in order to make mutual decisions, they must have trust and respect for each other and a willingness to negotiate on the issues. They also agree to put the needs of the children above their own. The process will work as follows:

1. When an issue arises, the initiating party will contact the other party by phone or email to address the specific concerns about the issue(s) and offer suggestions or potential solutions to come to an agreed upon decision.

2. If a decision cannot be made over the phone, the parent who initially voiced the issue will schedule a meeting to discuss it further with the other parent and a mutually agreed upon third party. This could include a mutual friend or mediator. If the meeting produces an agreement, a hand written version can be signed by the parties and the witness at that time.

3. Within [2 / 4 / 7] days after the meeting, the [father / mother] will type up the agreement and the parties will meet and sign, notarize, and file the agreement with the court as an addendum to this Parenting Plan.

4. If an agreement is not reached, the initiating party will send an email to the other party in order to:
· Summarize the discussion and suggest an additional meeting time; or,
· Confirm a previously agreed upon meeting time and location; or,
· Invoke an official mediation session with the professional specified in Section 10, “Mediation and Arbitration,” to both resolve and finalize a decision on the issue(s).

9.6. Mutual Decisions.
Mutual decisions to be made by both parties will include:

1. Any expenditures over $__________.
2. Any requested changes, either temporary or permanent, in the parenting schedule, including overnights, visitations, vacations or other shared parenting times.
3. All health care providers, including counseling or other emotional health support providers.
4. Selection of childcare providers if more than [10 / 15 / 20] hours per week.
5. All medical and dental treatment other than checkups and exams.
6. Social activities and sports.
7. Choice of schools and lengths of time attended, including private schools or college.
8. Any activities, special classes or programs that may interfere with the other parent’s scheduled parenting times.
9. Meetings that both parents must or should attend, either through school or special programs.
10. Religious programs, training or churches the children will attend.
11. Any potential changes that might modify this Parenting Plan.