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1.1. Parental Responsibilities and Decision-Making.
As the biological parents, both parents have decided that they are each sufficiently fit and proper persons to be awarded the permanent care and control of their minor children:

Name Date of Birth Age Social Security Number

James Thompson August 5, 2000 11 months 233-54-9908

Rebecca Thompson January 17, 1996 5 years 264-87-3589

The parents therefore wish to share major parenting responsibilities, including decisions about both emergency and non-emergency medical care, education, religious upbringing, and the general welfare of both children.

1.2. Shared Parenting.
The parties have decided that in order to both remain active and responsible and best support the development of their children in their day-to-day lives, the parents will share parenting time as outlined in Section 3, “Parenting Time.”

2.1. Day-To-Day Decisions.
Day-to-day decisions about the children shall be made by the parent with parenting time. Day-to-day decisions are minor disciplinary matters, ordinary medical and dental care, home rules, chores, school and homework, clothing and general hygiene guidelines for the children.

2.2. Cooperation and Respect.
Both parents recognize that the best interests of the children require them to cooperate and treat each other with dignity and respect, especially in the presence of the children. Both parents shall use their best efforts to foster the development and maintenance of positive relationships between the children by encouraging affection, promoting respect and good feelings toward the other parent. In addition:

A. Neither parent shall attempt to harm or alienate the relationship the other parent has with the children in any form. Neither parent shall make, nor shall they allow another person or agent within their control or influence to make any disparaging comments about the other parent in the presence of the children.

B. The parents shall cooperate and include each other in their children’s day care, health care, school, religious activities, organized sports, and other special activities and shall notify each other of their children’s regular activities.

C. The parents shall not involve the children in disputes or disagreements that may arise between each other, but they may jointly discuss issues with their children to get their input.

2.3. Resolution of Problems and Disputes.
If either party feels that a problem needs to be resolved or a major decision needs to be made, the process will work as follows:

1. When an issue arises, the initiating party will contact the other party with written notice of his or her position by email, hand-delivered letter, certified letter, or in the journal that is exchanged between the parties to address the specific concerns about the issue.

2. The receiving party must then provide his or her response to the issue within 7 days; however, an extension of time may not be unreasonably refused. Failure to respond within 7 days, or after a reasonable extension, will allow the party raising the issue to make the final decision.

3. If the issue cannot be resolved over the phone, the parent who initially voiced the issue will schedule a meeting to discuss it further, either together or with a mutually agreed upon third party. Either party can also request to go directly to mediation.

4. Prior to the meeting, the initiating party will send an email to the other party, summarizing any previous discussions and either suggest an additional meeting time, or confirm a previously agreed upon meeting time and location.

5. If the parties have not met with their mediator, and the initial meeting fails to produce an agreement, either parent may request an official mediation session in writing, with the professional specified in Section 10, “Mediation and Arbitration,” to help resolve the issues.

2.4. Non-Interference With Parenting Time.
Both parties agree never to schedule or promote to the children any special events or activities that fall on the other party’s parenting time without first obtaining permission from that party in the following manner:

A. The requesting party will notify the other party of the event or activity and discuss with them the benefits of the children’s attendance prior to discussing it with the children. If the other party already has something scheduled or decides that the children cannot participate in the event or activity for any reason, the requesting parent will abide by that decision and not attempt to influence the other parent through the children.

B. The children are free to express their interest in any activity to either parent at any time.

C. Both parties also agree not to interfere with each other’s parenting time in any form. If either parent denies physical access to scheduled visitation without just cause, that parent will pay all costs associated with mediation, arbitration, or court related legal fees, associated with resolving the violation and to ensure freedom from future violations.