Hi folks, I've run into a sticky situation involving father of S5.
To put you in context, S5 went to my & his dentist for an appointment to check up on a cavity that I had noticed. S5 was in father's care and so father took him, dentist realized after taking xrays that S5 had a big cavity on his mollar and father made an appointment for treatment a few days later.
I contacted father on the day of the appointment to see how it had gone and father told me he had missed the 8:00am appointment but he had called his own dentist and was going to see what they could do. The next day, ex called stating that his dentist had done the filling procedure and that everything had gone well in regards to our son.
Three weeks after, son started complaining and tearing up about tooth pain where the cavity was filled, wasn't eating, was feverish and had to remove him from school. Because S5 had gotten the procedure done at father's dentist, I decided to return to that practice. It took my spouse and I an hour to try and convince S5 to go back, S5 was volatile, terrified, and in the end my spouse had to basket hold him, buckle him up in the vehicle, so that we could make the appointment in time I was informed that they should have referred father to a pediatrics dentist and that S5 might need a pulpotomy (root canal) or a complete extraction. S5 cried the whole time in the dental office, latching on to door frames when called in to the exam room.
Got a referral for a Pediatric Dentist and I got an appointment a few days later. This office, and employees were awesome and my S5 was calm and collected, I assured him on the way that he was just going to get pictures taken of his teeth.
After the exam, the DR gave me 4 options (with different pricing)
1 Pulpotomy with Oral (silly juice) & Local freezing 500$
2 Extraction with Oral & local freezing 350$
3 GA with pulpotomy 1300$
4 GA with extraction 1100$
and DR recommended general anesthesia seeing as S5 had been so anxious in the prior visit.
Of course I relayed all info to ex. We both agreed that because it's a baby tooth that an extraction and a space maintainer would be prime but when ex saw the difference of 900$ more in pricing for the GA he refused to go with this option. My spouse and I (have no med coverage) offered to pay all the costs related to the GA.
Ex says he won't consent to GA procedure stating that S5 should toughen up and that he had dental work done at his age and son should have local anesthesia. Ex told me that he doesn't want S5 to even have the "silly juice" ....
Now where the hell do I stand, I told ex that I'd cover costs, that I'd rather S5 not go through the trauma/painful experience. Told ex that he should contact the DR if he had any reservations (he refused) We have a shared custody arrangement but I'm just scared that making the decision of going through with the GA and extraction will give him the right to take it up to court because he was, and I quote" non-consensual to the price of this procedure"
Has any of you gone through these procedures with your kiddos and or exs?
Thanks in advance and sorry for the lengthy posting!
To put you in context, S5 went to my & his dentist for an appointment to check up on a cavity that I had noticed. S5 was in father's care and so father took him, dentist realized after taking xrays that S5 had a big cavity on his mollar and father made an appointment for treatment a few days later.
I contacted father on the day of the appointment to see how it had gone and father told me he had missed the 8:00am appointment but he had called his own dentist and was going to see what they could do. The next day, ex called stating that his dentist had done the filling procedure and that everything had gone well in regards to our son.
Three weeks after, son started complaining and tearing up about tooth pain where the cavity was filled, wasn't eating, was feverish and had to remove him from school. Because S5 had gotten the procedure done at father's dentist, I decided to return to that practice. It took my spouse and I an hour to try and convince S5 to go back, S5 was volatile, terrified, and in the end my spouse had to basket hold him, buckle him up in the vehicle, so that we could make the appointment in time I was informed that they should have referred father to a pediatrics dentist and that S5 might need a pulpotomy (root canal) or a complete extraction. S5 cried the whole time in the dental office, latching on to door frames when called in to the exam room.
Got a referral for a Pediatric Dentist and I got an appointment a few days later. This office, and employees were awesome and my S5 was calm and collected, I assured him on the way that he was just going to get pictures taken of his teeth.
After the exam, the DR gave me 4 options (with different pricing)
1 Pulpotomy with Oral (silly juice) & Local freezing 500$
2 Extraction with Oral & local freezing 350$
3 GA with pulpotomy 1300$
4 GA with extraction 1100$
and DR recommended general anesthesia seeing as S5 had been so anxious in the prior visit.
Of course I relayed all info to ex. We both agreed that because it's a baby tooth that an extraction and a space maintainer would be prime but when ex saw the difference of 900$ more in pricing for the GA he refused to go with this option. My spouse and I (have no med coverage) offered to pay all the costs related to the GA.
Ex says he won't consent to GA procedure stating that S5 should toughen up and that he had dental work done at his age and son should have local anesthesia. Ex told me that he doesn't want S5 to even have the "silly juice" ....
Now where the hell do I stand, I told ex that I'd cover costs, that I'd rather S5 not go through the trauma/painful experience. Told ex that he should contact the DR if he had any reservations (he refused) We have a shared custody arrangement but I'm just scared that making the decision of going through with the GA and extraction will give him the right to take it up to court because he was, and I quote" non-consensual to the price of this procedure"
Has any of you gone through these procedures with your kiddos and or exs?
Thanks in advance and sorry for the lengthy posting!
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