Hello all,
Seems like a pretty good place to get some answers, and I have quite a few questions.
A little background first. My wife (now separated) and I married in November '08 and are now just in the beginning stages of a divorce. We also have a 14 month old son, who is my world. Things have been rocky throughout our relationship, and she has been extremely mentally unstable. She has been to the doctor numerous times to be perscibed anti-dpressants, and it seems that her mood swings have happened at least once per month since we had our son. She gets extremely aggressive, and there is nothing I can do to stop her from coming at me and hitting me. I try to lock doors, but she kicks them and tries to wreck them until I open them, if I try to leave she stands in front of the door and won't let me out. Like just about all men, I never did file anything with the police. And when I told her that abuse against men is just as common as women she told me that was a lie. Anyway, I took a transfer with my company to the US and we all moved in December. However, she ended up packing up and moving home in May with my son, and now it is extremely hard to go back and see him. I was used to seeing him everyday and now the trips cost ~$2K when I travel. When I met her (approx 2.5 years ago) she had nothing really, she ended up moving her way into my condo at the time and never ever offered to pay for anything other that very occasional groceries. Even at that, I one time suggested that we split the grocery bill and she freaked out. In my mind, I was paying for everything else, mortgage, taxes, condo fees, utilities, truck pmt, maintenance ect. so this shouldn't have been a big deal. The only bill she had was for her car payment. Anyway, live and learn, and never get mixed up with a gold digger again.
She has always had a good job and full benefits making about 60% of what I make. I am wondering how I can calculate the CS amount for my son? And how spousal support is determined? also, since everything in our house was mine prior to meeting her, how will it be divided? I am going to try to get custody of our son, but I am not sure how best to go about this. His home is here, 2900 sqft home in a beautiful nieghbourhood, and not in the 2 bdrm apartment living with the ex's sister. I know these are very broad questions.
Thanks in advance for any advice you can give.
Seems like a pretty good place to get some answers, and I have quite a few questions.
A little background first. My wife (now separated) and I married in November '08 and are now just in the beginning stages of a divorce. We also have a 14 month old son, who is my world. Things have been rocky throughout our relationship, and she has been extremely mentally unstable. She has been to the doctor numerous times to be perscibed anti-dpressants, and it seems that her mood swings have happened at least once per month since we had our son. She gets extremely aggressive, and there is nothing I can do to stop her from coming at me and hitting me. I try to lock doors, but she kicks them and tries to wreck them until I open them, if I try to leave she stands in front of the door and won't let me out. Like just about all men, I never did file anything with the police. And when I told her that abuse against men is just as common as women she told me that was a lie. Anyway, I took a transfer with my company to the US and we all moved in December. However, she ended up packing up and moving home in May with my son, and now it is extremely hard to go back and see him. I was used to seeing him everyday and now the trips cost ~$2K when I travel. When I met her (approx 2.5 years ago) she had nothing really, she ended up moving her way into my condo at the time and never ever offered to pay for anything other that very occasional groceries. Even at that, I one time suggested that we split the grocery bill and she freaked out. In my mind, I was paying for everything else, mortgage, taxes, condo fees, utilities, truck pmt, maintenance ect. so this shouldn't have been a big deal. The only bill she had was for her car payment. Anyway, live and learn, and never get mixed up with a gold digger again.
She has always had a good job and full benefits making about 60% of what I make. I am wondering how I can calculate the CS amount for my son? And how spousal support is determined? also, since everything in our house was mine prior to meeting her, how will it be divided? I am going to try to get custody of our son, but I am not sure how best to go about this. His home is here, 2900 sqft home in a beautiful nieghbourhood, and not in the 2 bdrm apartment living with the ex's sister. I know these are very broad questions.
Thanks in advance for any advice you can give.
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