I don't mind doing the work on this but I think I may need a lawyer for this since it seems tricky. I have touched upon this perviously but wanted to present my problem more specifically..I'm sure this is common for Dad's who start EOW and then would like to have 50/50
I am a Dad who has had EOW arrangement with Ex. Could not help that. Son is now 11. I have moved 2 blocks away from my son's school. I beleive my son needs to have a dad in his life more than just EOW - epecially at this age moving forward. e.g. he has some peach fuzz developing and his mother bought him an electric shaver for xmas. Luckily I explained to my son why it's not time to use that and he understood! Funny I know, but illustrates the problem. 11 yr olds need a male figure in there life to help them as they grow from a male perspective. No offence to single moms this is just my case and my belief. I respect the job that single mom's do. but that is part of my reasoning for wanting to change the present situation.
We do not have a custody order in place or a valid separation agreement any longer and any change I impose is a change in the "current arrangement" as it has become the status quo now. Some have advised to change the current arrangment while I can which makes sense but her lawyer has stated that any unilateral decision I make will force his hand and bring the current status quo arrangment to court and have it turned into an order.
Yes I can try to work out a new arrangment but it's become clear to me that anything providing my son with more access to me will not be agreed to, even him walking over after school every day, so I have to decide my best course of action.
If I create a situation where I end up in court could I not then argue for more access or should I be the one going to court seeking more access.. etc.
Ultimately I would like 50/50. What's the best approach? Aside from the obvious answer of getting a good lawyer..
thanks
H
I am a Dad who has had EOW arrangement with Ex. Could not help that. Son is now 11. I have moved 2 blocks away from my son's school. I beleive my son needs to have a dad in his life more than just EOW - epecially at this age moving forward. e.g. he has some peach fuzz developing and his mother bought him an electric shaver for xmas. Luckily I explained to my son why it's not time to use that and he understood! Funny I know, but illustrates the problem. 11 yr olds need a male figure in there life to help them as they grow from a male perspective. No offence to single moms this is just my case and my belief. I respect the job that single mom's do. but that is part of my reasoning for wanting to change the present situation.
We do not have a custody order in place or a valid separation agreement any longer and any change I impose is a change in the "current arrangement" as it has become the status quo now. Some have advised to change the current arrangment while I can which makes sense but her lawyer has stated that any unilateral decision I make will force his hand and bring the current status quo arrangment to court and have it turned into an order.
Yes I can try to work out a new arrangment but it's become clear to me that anything providing my son with more access to me will not be agreed to, even him walking over after school every day, so I have to decide my best course of action.
If I create a situation where I end up in court could I not then argue for more access or should I be the one going to court seeking more access.. etc.
Ultimately I would like 50/50. What's the best approach? Aside from the obvious answer of getting a good lawyer..
thanks
H
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