I don't know if any of you will remember my previous post, but my ex and I live 8 hours apart and we had hashed out an agreement where the boys would spend March Break with him, half of Christmas holidays, a couple of long weekends, and half of the summer.
About a month ago, we were talking and agreed to them spending the full summer with him (ack - I have never been apart from them, so I am having some anxiety about it!), with the exception of a week in July when they will come to my parent's cottage (a traditional family holiday with lots of extended family), an afternoon for a family reunion on my dad's side, and for my wedding day in August.
The boys are incredibly excited, and they fly out on July 2nd. The mother of my ex's girlfriend is paying for this flight under the assumption that my ex will pay her back for it. My mother is travelling from here to there at that same time and offered to drive the kids (free for my ex), but he declined.
The thing is that, as far as I know, my ex is still not working. (Funny story, after everything that happened last summer, he and his girlfriend decided to move back to our old hometown - after telling me he would never move back there - and he hasn't worked since the move). I have encouraged him to apply at the hospital (he went to school for PSW), as they were hiring and pay $19/hour, but he never applied.
I am afraid that he won't be able to afford the additional expense of having the boys with him over the summer. Whenever I try to talk to him about money/his job prospects, he gets very vague ... no, he's not working - but they are "fine". I don't want this to cause a problem - should I be sending money down with the kids? Ex has not paid any child support since (I think) February, and what he has paid has amounted to a few hundred dollars over the last three years that I have had custody. My concern about sending money is that he will not spend it on the kids. My other concern is that the kids will end up going without things because he has no money.
What would you do?
About a month ago, we were talking and agreed to them spending the full summer with him (ack - I have never been apart from them, so I am having some anxiety about it!), with the exception of a week in July when they will come to my parent's cottage (a traditional family holiday with lots of extended family), an afternoon for a family reunion on my dad's side, and for my wedding day in August.
The boys are incredibly excited, and they fly out on July 2nd. The mother of my ex's girlfriend is paying for this flight under the assumption that my ex will pay her back for it. My mother is travelling from here to there at that same time and offered to drive the kids (free for my ex), but he declined.
The thing is that, as far as I know, my ex is still not working. (Funny story, after everything that happened last summer, he and his girlfriend decided to move back to our old hometown - after telling me he would never move back there - and he hasn't worked since the move). I have encouraged him to apply at the hospital (he went to school for PSW), as they were hiring and pay $19/hour, but he never applied.
I am afraid that he won't be able to afford the additional expense of having the boys with him over the summer. Whenever I try to talk to him about money/his job prospects, he gets very vague ... no, he's not working - but they are "fine". I don't want this to cause a problem - should I be sending money down with the kids? Ex has not paid any child support since (I think) February, and what he has paid has amounted to a few hundred dollars over the last three years that I have had custody. My concern about sending money is that he will not spend it on the kids. My other concern is that the kids will end up going without things because he has no money.
What would you do?
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