I have reported my DS(3) grandfather to CAS for sexual contact. Ex lives with grandfather so I gave him the option of meeting child at a relative's house, park etc. It was communicated to him that the child not be taken to his home where grandfather is present pending CAS decision. I found out he took son to his home where grandfather was present. He is claiming grandfather was absent. Can I deny ex access? I don't want to but is there any other alternative? Ex gets EOW.
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Originally posted by Kart321 View PostI have reported my DS(3) grandfather to CAS for sexual contact. Ex lives with grandfather so I gave him the option of meeting child at a relative's house, park etc. It was communicated to him that the child not be taken to his home where grandfather is present pending CAS decision. I found out he took son to his home where grandfather was present. He is claiming grandfather was absent. Can I deny ex access? I don't want to but is there any other alternative? Ex gets EOW.
Ask them for guidance on what to do for the time being.
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Originally posted by pinkHouses View PostI don't understand how the first step could be to go to an internet forum for direction and report this instead of the CAS. It doesn't make sense to me. It is like not wearing pants on public transport, every day.
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Originally posted by Kart321 View PostCAS had given me a disclaimer saying they don't deal with access and custody which is why I didn't bother asking. I have never dealt with CAS before. They seemed bombarded with cases when I called them about my son so I don't want to take up their time anymore than I absolutely have to. But thank you for your input.
Don't get discouraged- there are really great case workers and supervisors in each city (from my experience). I have dealt with them both in the City of Toronto and the Region of Peel.
Also- please use them- they are great resources. I would call and ask to have an appointment with a case worker or supervisor at a scheduled time. They will usually allot about 1/2hr to speak with you. Tell them your history, if you've been involved with CAS in any other City, and ask if they can monitor your situation.
Good luck.
Do you have legal counsel? or access to a legal aid clinic?
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Originally posted by StillPaying View PostWhat is going on here? Where are the police, cas, court?
You make it sound serious, but then are trying to handle it yourself...
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Originally posted by iona6656 View PostI've dealt with CAS before- which city are you in?
Also- please use them- they are great resources. I would call and ask to have an appointment with a case worker or supervisor at a scheduled time. They will usually allot about 1/2hr to speak with you. Tell them your history, if you've been involved with CAS in any other City, and ask if they can monitor your situation.
Good luck.
Do you have legal counsel? or access to a legal aid clinic?
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Originally posted by Kart321 View PostCAS had given me a disclaimer saying they don't deal with access and custody which is why I didn't bother asking. I have never dealt with CAS before. They seemed bombarded with cases when I called them about my son so I don't want to take up their time anymore than I absolutely have to. But thank you for your input.
The way CAS runs is that they are like little franchises, the more cases they get the more money they get, that doesn't mean that they do not employ caring and competent Social Workers. A results based thing as I see it. A cynical but accurate view.
Don't feel bad about "bothering" them about this. Your concern and query is legitimate and important, you don't have a choice but to enquire.
Doesn't your ex care about this type of abuse? No matter who the abuser was I would be enraged at the abuser and on the lookout for protecting my child if the abuse was proven. Hidden cameras, the works if I suspected something.
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CAS if there is an issue will bring the matter before the court and remove the child under the Child and Family Services Act. Every time CAS tells you that the child is not supposed to see the other parent or someone else question why they are not bringing the matter forward to the court so that course of action can be taken.
CAS creates so much unnecessary conflict with "advice" and non-action on files. No CAS worker should give "advice" on access or custody. Unless CAS has an order in hand... They have no authority to instruct any parent to remove access from the other.
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Originally posted by Tayken View PostCAS if there is an issue will bring the matter before the court and remove the child under the Child and Family Services Act. Every time CAS tells you that the child is not supposed to see the other parent or someone else question why they are not bringing the matter forward to the court so that course of action can be taken.
CAS creates so much unnecessary conflict with "advice" and non-action on files. No CAS worker should give "advice" on access or custody. Unless CAS has an order in hand... They have no authority to instruct any parent to remove access from the other.
They never gave me advice. They just provided me with resources - and more importantly drilled me on what my plans were in terms of parenting- there was heavy emphasis on "you better not take that child back to the house".
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