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We had our Settlement Conference yesterday and actually settled!
Good stuff. The likelyhood of the order being followed (and eventually improved over time) is dramatically increased when both parents consent to the order.

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Settled as per OCL recommendations giving the ex medical and leaving me with education and religion. Also equal time sharing.
Whoa whoa whoa stop the clock. You were not "left" anything. Here is a little unknown fact for you to ponder regarding the IMPORTANCE of education OVER medical.

(note: This is unless your child has a LTD that requires regular medical attention.)

Education is far more important and delicate to handle as a parent. It also consumers significantly more parental time and knowledge. So, do not ever think you were "left" this. In fact, it is the single most important thing a parent will have to do for their children!

Medical isn't that important. In fact, they don't even recommend children go for yearly "checkups" anymore in most jurisdictions unless they have some long-term medical condition! If your child is healthy (like most) then there will be rarely, if every, any major medical decision to be made. In fact, there are so many professionals involved with children's "major" medical decisions that the parents are often not even making the decision. They are being told what to do by doctors because they are not qualified to make the decision. Sure, it can be a tough decision if you have to make it but, there are so many inputs to it that it isn't a "sole" decision.

Education is quite different. It is something you have to deal with 10 months of the year. It is something the children will participate in and spend most of their time in! They spend more time being educated than they do with their parents. So, this by far is WAY MORE important of a task to be responsible for as a parent.

Lots churns on the decisions regarding a child's education. Especially if they are healthy children who never interact with the medical system!

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Some carefully planned tactics bought me some extras, like 1 more week in summer, every single holiday, alternating PD days which always falls on the ex's time. This was done giving by giving up every Christmas eve from 7:00pm until Christmas day at noon. The only other holiday my ex got was almost half of Easter, they did ask for every Thanksgiving Monday but I just stated the Christmas deal does not come with out a price and they gave up on that very quick.
What is the regular access schedule though?
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