Hello- Unlike others, I have not been lurking long. Just diving in and hoping to find information and moral support through this struggle.
Married 25 years ago. One daughter 19. Asked for separation over a year ago and set the wheels in motion, getting house ready for resale, sorting and dividing stuff, requesting H to prepare asset distribution spreadsheet. He has been very slow but progress has been made.
My brilliant, but borderline Asberger's H received multiple inheritances over the course of our marriage some of which was used to buy and renovate our home. He also chose to switch careers from something high to low paying, then unilaterally decided to retire at 55. I have been working full time every day of my life at work and at home. I am exhausted and want out. Unloading a too big house will help. Ours was never a marriage of equal distribution of labour.
Bottom line now, that we have read about Ontario family law, is he gets twice the assets I do (b/c of his inheritances) and I have to pay him spousal support to the tune of up to 50% of the differences in our income. So he gets to continue to goof off while having a much larger retirement nest egg and I am doomed to continue to toil to keep him in the manner in which he has become accustomed. This is not right. What possible incentive can he have to go back to work? Will I ever be able to unload the freeloader?
Married 25 years ago. One daughter 19. Asked for separation over a year ago and set the wheels in motion, getting house ready for resale, sorting and dividing stuff, requesting H to prepare asset distribution spreadsheet. He has been very slow but progress has been made.
My brilliant, but borderline Asberger's H received multiple inheritances over the course of our marriage some of which was used to buy and renovate our home. He also chose to switch careers from something high to low paying, then unilaterally decided to retire at 55. I have been working full time every day of my life at work and at home. I am exhausted and want out. Unloading a too big house will help. Ours was never a marriage of equal distribution of labour.
Bottom line now, that we have read about Ontario family law, is he gets twice the assets I do (b/c of his inheritances) and I have to pay him spousal support to the tune of up to 50% of the differences in our income. So he gets to continue to goof off while having a much larger retirement nest egg and I am doomed to continue to toil to keep him in the manner in which he has become accustomed. This is not right. What possible incentive can he have to go back to work? Will I ever be able to unload the freeloader?
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