Hi everyone,
Long story short, I have been common-law for 13 years and have 2 children, 11 and 7. After a few years in the relashionship I started noticing things that I had problems with but for the sake of the children I went along for years. Now it all broke apart during the holiday season...
Our children are fine for now, there were no abuse of any kind in the relashionship, no drug or alchool problems, nothing of that nature anyway.
My problem is the following, I am military and we lived in Victoria for about 3 1/2 years. Last summer I was transfered to Ottawa. For some reason my ex decided she did not want to follow me at that time and she gave me some reasons that seemed legitimate at the time. I got my employer to agree to transfer me while my ex stayed back until the end of the school year. Now the reasons for doing this no longer apply therefore the military is requesting me to initiate my final move.
Now of course she does not want to live with me so we have to figure this out. I secured a place in Ottawa and told her that I would take care of the kids while she gets her feet back on the ground, get a job and a place to stay. She did not agree with this and said she wanted to take the kids and live closer to her family in Quebec. So I started to do all the paperwork for the move and then she came back and decided to stay in Victoria and only move next summer.
Problem is that there is no way she will be able to afford to stay there without a job and I can't financially support that option too. Plus how am I going to get access to my kids? Seems that all the decisions she is making are going against all better judgement. 2 days ago I called home and my 11 year old daughter was alone at home while she was shopping. No one new she was alone, what if her mom got into a car accident...? She also as a tendency to spend hours on the computer or the phone kids are left to themself during that time. I mean when I was home I did cooking, dishes, laundry and house cleaning on top of my daily work while she was on facebook.
Now she won't give me her plan of action she just tells me whenever I ask that she will figure it out but for me it's not sufficient. She as no plans unless she does and I don't know about it... But I secured a place where the kids have their own rooms, close to a school alot closer to a family support (Grand-parents, oncles, aunts...)
So what do you think, do I have a chance do get full custody until she gets her live straytend out or will I have to pay and watch my kids suffer.
Thanks for any comments!
Long story short, I have been common-law for 13 years and have 2 children, 11 and 7. After a few years in the relashionship I started noticing things that I had problems with but for the sake of the children I went along for years. Now it all broke apart during the holiday season...
Our children are fine for now, there were no abuse of any kind in the relashionship, no drug or alchool problems, nothing of that nature anyway.
My problem is the following, I am military and we lived in Victoria for about 3 1/2 years. Last summer I was transfered to Ottawa. For some reason my ex decided she did not want to follow me at that time and she gave me some reasons that seemed legitimate at the time. I got my employer to agree to transfer me while my ex stayed back until the end of the school year. Now the reasons for doing this no longer apply therefore the military is requesting me to initiate my final move.
Now of course she does not want to live with me so we have to figure this out. I secured a place in Ottawa and told her that I would take care of the kids while she gets her feet back on the ground, get a job and a place to stay. She did not agree with this and said she wanted to take the kids and live closer to her family in Quebec. So I started to do all the paperwork for the move and then she came back and decided to stay in Victoria and only move next summer.
Problem is that there is no way she will be able to afford to stay there without a job and I can't financially support that option too. Plus how am I going to get access to my kids? Seems that all the decisions she is making are going against all better judgement. 2 days ago I called home and my 11 year old daughter was alone at home while she was shopping. No one new she was alone, what if her mom got into a car accident...? She also as a tendency to spend hours on the computer or the phone kids are left to themself during that time. I mean when I was home I did cooking, dishes, laundry and house cleaning on top of my daily work while she was on facebook.
Now she won't give me her plan of action she just tells me whenever I ask that she will figure it out but for me it's not sufficient. She as no plans unless she does and I don't know about it... But I secured a place where the kids have their own rooms, close to a school alot closer to a family support (Grand-parents, oncles, aunts...)
So what do you think, do I have a chance do get full custody until she gets her live straytend out or will I have to pay and watch my kids suffer.
Thanks for any comments!
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