Yes things vary from household to household. My ex was a clean-freak who demanded perfection. He expected extensive home-cooked meals and large lunches packed for him each and every day. Our grocery bill was hefty and the shopping alone was a chore as he would only eat certain cuts of fresh meat. I couldn't go and stock up on a deal on meat as he didn't like to eat meat that had been frozen. He expected home-made cabbage rolls, pyrogies, deserts, cookies etc. Laundry was done daily as were the floors washed and everything kept in pristine condition. I ironed everything, including his bluejeans. On top of this I did the accounting for the business and raised a son. I also did contract work when opportunities arose. I put all of my inheritance in the business. We entertained frequently. I cooked for most of his family on major holidays and sometimes that meant cooking for 26 - 28 people.
When someone refers to a stay-at-home individual as a person who basically just cleans up around the place I see red. Yes there are some people who do minimum around the house but that seemed to be all that their spouses expect.
SS should, and is, determined on an individual basis. Documentation is very, very important. If the ex did relatively nothing then it is incumbent on the person who doesn't want to pay SS to prove this.
When someone refers to a stay-at-home individual as a person who basically just cleans up around the place I see red. Yes there are some people who do minimum around the house but that seemed to be all that their spouses expect.
SS should, and is, determined on an individual basis. Documentation is very, very important. If the ex did relatively nothing then it is incumbent on the person who doesn't want to pay SS to prove this.
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