Left my husband in 2010. We had an amicable situation until he met a woman, now his wife. Since she has been involved in 2013 its been hell. I hold him responsible because he is responsible for his actions but its a nightmare.
CAS, police, OCL, psychologists have all been involved. After incredible fabrication on his part, the professionals finally sorted it out and saw him for what he is. He went from having the children almost half the time every week, to being cut back by CAS to every second weekend. in 2016 on the eve of our trial, he was suddenly motivated to settle and I thought it was over.
Then the allegations started again. He filed official complaints with the law society against the OCL, against my lawyer, and filed a complaint with my husband in his professional association. All dismissed of course as there is no wrong doing on my part. As part of the settlement agreement I settled only on the agreement that he and his now wife would sign a release stopping them from further litigation. Other than the arduous custody/financial garbage in family law, she had tried to sue me twice in civil court for "pain and suffering". None of the outcomes of any of the litigation went well for him or for her.
in 2015 he manhandled our son and he kicked him out and hasn't allowed him back since. He was 16 at the time. A month after settlement he kicked our daughter out during her time with him and hasn't let her back either. He joins groups and forums and has contacted newspapers, Dr. Phil etc etc.....all claiming that he has been alienated from his children and that he is a champion for fathers rights to have their children 50/50. He has started a new family court process, trying to turn over the agreement we signed and had endorsed on the eve of our trial in 2016. He agreed to it. But now he wants it overturned saying that I committed "fraud" because I had spoken with his now wifes ex husband. I used a false name to speak with him. I had contacted him to understand her thinking better and to understand some of the claims she had made during their divorce and parenting situation. He was never involved in anyway in the case and his name never even came up until after the agreement was signed. it had no bearing on anything.
Anyway, he wants to over turn the agreement. He wants legal custody of the children (19 yrs and almost 17 years) but he doesn't want them to live with him. He wants me to pay him back all the years of child support he paid plus litigation costs plus interest plus mortgage fees plus plus plus plus...it amounts to 300K. Meanwhile, he stopped paying all child support and recently FRO started to garnish him. He is 25K in arrears.
Im just tired. He has no case. He has made no motion to see the kids. Wants nothing to do with them, but wants them removed from my home and put into foster care because "im a monster". Im so tired of spending money on litigation. Im paying for college on my own and all the childrens needs...plus litigation. Im just so tired. This has been going on and on.
This incessant insanity.
At least he stopped calling the police...for now.
there is so much of this story that no one would believe me if I outlined it all. I want to write a book but right now im too tired to even do what I need to do for this new litigation crap.
This is what its like to divorce a narcissist.
CAS, police, OCL, psychologists have all been involved. After incredible fabrication on his part, the professionals finally sorted it out and saw him for what he is. He went from having the children almost half the time every week, to being cut back by CAS to every second weekend. in 2016 on the eve of our trial, he was suddenly motivated to settle and I thought it was over.
Then the allegations started again. He filed official complaints with the law society against the OCL, against my lawyer, and filed a complaint with my husband in his professional association. All dismissed of course as there is no wrong doing on my part. As part of the settlement agreement I settled only on the agreement that he and his now wife would sign a release stopping them from further litigation. Other than the arduous custody/financial garbage in family law, she had tried to sue me twice in civil court for "pain and suffering". None of the outcomes of any of the litigation went well for him or for her.
in 2015 he manhandled our son and he kicked him out and hasn't allowed him back since. He was 16 at the time. A month after settlement he kicked our daughter out during her time with him and hasn't let her back either. He joins groups and forums and has contacted newspapers, Dr. Phil etc etc.....all claiming that he has been alienated from his children and that he is a champion for fathers rights to have their children 50/50. He has started a new family court process, trying to turn over the agreement we signed and had endorsed on the eve of our trial in 2016. He agreed to it. But now he wants it overturned saying that I committed "fraud" because I had spoken with his now wifes ex husband. I used a false name to speak with him. I had contacted him to understand her thinking better and to understand some of the claims she had made during their divorce and parenting situation. He was never involved in anyway in the case and his name never even came up until after the agreement was signed. it had no bearing on anything.
Anyway, he wants to over turn the agreement. He wants legal custody of the children (19 yrs and almost 17 years) but he doesn't want them to live with him. He wants me to pay him back all the years of child support he paid plus litigation costs plus interest plus mortgage fees plus plus plus plus...it amounts to 300K. Meanwhile, he stopped paying all child support and recently FRO started to garnish him. He is 25K in arrears.
Im just tired. He has no case. He has made no motion to see the kids. Wants nothing to do with them, but wants them removed from my home and put into foster care because "im a monster". Im so tired of spending money on litigation. Im paying for college on my own and all the childrens needs...plus litigation. Im just so tired. This has been going on and on.
This incessant insanity.
At least he stopped calling the police...for now.
there is so much of this story that no one would believe me if I outlined it all. I want to write a book but right now im too tired to even do what I need to do for this new litigation crap.
This is what its like to divorce a narcissist.
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