There does appear to be a lot of information missing. I’m curious as to whether or not the OP went to the police about the text or CAS as Arabian suggested. If she hasn’t yet taken those steps I would wonder why not? If she has it would be interesting to know the results.
I also agree with Janus that judges can easily be fooled. In this situation that could apply to the girlfriend and deceased ex having alienated the OP while fooling the judge or the OP fooling the judge in some manner.
The OP mentioned having anxiety issues I believe. I hope she is getting support through this challenging time. If the girlfriend’s texts are true it sounds like she needs counselling and has issues. As anonymous members on a divorce forum chat board we are naturally not privy to all the many relevant details of this unique family court situation. We can only go by the scant information given and use our collective personal experiences with family court to offer opinions and advice to the OP.
To the OP. Thank you for having the courage to post about your unique situation. It does have many of us thinking and has stirred a lively debate. Please don’t take offence to any posters who disagree with you or challenge your position. If anything, opposing opinions or harsh criticism can be used to strengthen your position by giving you pause to think about how others may react. It’s a great opportunity to learn and reflect. Ask yourself if there is any merit to the criticism, if not ignore and move on. If there is some merit to the criticism then reflect on it and be glad you have an opportunity to fix things, adjust your behaviour, stance, etc. True power comes in knowing when something is or isn’t your fault, moving on when it isn’t and taking full responsibility when it is.
Good luck and please keep us posted.
I also agree with Janus that judges can easily be fooled. In this situation that could apply to the girlfriend and deceased ex having alienated the OP while fooling the judge or the OP fooling the judge in some manner.
The OP mentioned having anxiety issues I believe. I hope she is getting support through this challenging time. If the girlfriend’s texts are true it sounds like she needs counselling and has issues. As anonymous members on a divorce forum chat board we are naturally not privy to all the many relevant details of this unique family court situation. We can only go by the scant information given and use our collective personal experiences with family court to offer opinions and advice to the OP.
To the OP. Thank you for having the courage to post about your unique situation. It does have many of us thinking and has stirred a lively debate. Please don’t take offence to any posters who disagree with you or challenge your position. If anything, opposing opinions or harsh criticism can be used to strengthen your position by giving you pause to think about how others may react. It’s a great opportunity to learn and reflect. Ask yourself if there is any merit to the criticism, if not ignore and move on. If there is some merit to the criticism then reflect on it and be glad you have an opportunity to fix things, adjust your behaviour, stance, etc. True power comes in knowing when something is or isn’t your fault, moving on when it isn’t and taking full responsibility when it is.
Good luck and please keep us posted.
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