Hi all,
I have a concern I would love some opinions on. This post will come across as biased, and I am looking for some objective opinions to moderate me, if you please.
I am the non-custodial parent of two children ages 10 and 11, and have an access agreement whre I have both children two days a week and alternate weekends. I happily pay CS to help support my children.
My ex-wife and I had issues with financial responsibility prior to our separation. Shortly after our separation, she quit her job and her prime source of income became the CS. After our separation, she infrequently asks me to call FRO to hurry her payments as she is broke, sometimes asking for money, and I try to stay uninvolved in what I believe to be a dangerous topic to broach. However, I have been paying directly for clothing and class trips when I can. I am able to pay my bills and m child support, but I hardly have a disposable income, and I am still paying off my hefty lawyer bill from the separation.
Lately the children have been telling me that they are giving their allowance to their mother to help pay for food and gas. They are now starting to tell me that there is not enough food at their mothers' house. I am attempting to be neutral in my responses to the children other than "you are 10 and 11, you shoudn't have to worry about this sort of thing", but I am very concerned for their well-being.
Now that food seems to be an issue, I am concerned. Should I do something? What can I do without possibly making a bad situaion worse?
Advice would be greatly appreciated.
I have a concern I would love some opinions on. This post will come across as biased, and I am looking for some objective opinions to moderate me, if you please.
I am the non-custodial parent of two children ages 10 and 11, and have an access agreement whre I have both children two days a week and alternate weekends. I happily pay CS to help support my children.
My ex-wife and I had issues with financial responsibility prior to our separation. Shortly after our separation, she quit her job and her prime source of income became the CS. After our separation, she infrequently asks me to call FRO to hurry her payments as she is broke, sometimes asking for money, and I try to stay uninvolved in what I believe to be a dangerous topic to broach. However, I have been paying directly for clothing and class trips when I can. I am able to pay my bills and m child support, but I hardly have a disposable income, and I am still paying off my hefty lawyer bill from the separation.
Lately the children have been telling me that they are giving their allowance to their mother to help pay for food and gas. They are now starting to tell me that there is not enough food at their mothers' house. I am attempting to be neutral in my responses to the children other than "you are 10 and 11, you shoudn't have to worry about this sort of thing", but I am very concerned for their well-being.
Now that food seems to be an issue, I am concerned. Should I do something? What can I do without possibly making a bad situaion worse?
Advice would be greatly appreciated.
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