Hello, without going into depth. can anyone explain more clearly what the implications are for joint custody versus care and control. Like most court orders, my court order is not very clear on this issue and my ex is interpreting in his own manner.
Been in and out of court for 12 years. Always had joint custody written into the order, although at one point we also had shared custody meaning the children resided with each of us week on, week off. In 2005, the courts awarded after a lengthy assessment review, that the children could and should move with me to a new community 1 hour away and reside with me on a full time basis. I was therefore awarded care and control on a daily basis, but the joint custody clause remained in reference to major decisions affecting the children: dental, medical, education, religion and yes consent required for counseling. Dad's access was outlined as every other weekend, 2 weeks in the summer, mid week visit from after school to 8 pm with 48 hours notice and equal sharing of holidays like Christmas.
After 5 years, he has begun to utilize his access to mid week visits with notice. That is not a problem. However, his current wife is now also working int eh area and is showing up at the school unannounced and without notice wanting to take my daughter out to lunch. First, my understanding is that our court order is between the parents and step parents have about as much rights as that of a grandparent. More importantly, though, they both are refusing to give notice. Dad's position is that joint custody means equal access.
If this were an amicable agreement, I would not mind. However, step mom did the same thing 2 years ago, taking my son out of school,calling him weekly ( not dad calling only, step mom) and never asking to speak to the other kids, only my son. Subsequently, my son was cooerced to go and live with Dad and step mom and is refusing any contact with me. So I need to be clear about the definitions surrounding joint custody and care and control. I disagree that Dad or his wife can show up at the school without notice and take my daughter out to lunch. I am quite worried that he will drag this issue back to court saying I am in contempt of the order.
Clarity please?? I need some ground to stand on.
Been in and out of court for 12 years. Always had joint custody written into the order, although at one point we also had shared custody meaning the children resided with each of us week on, week off. In 2005, the courts awarded after a lengthy assessment review, that the children could and should move with me to a new community 1 hour away and reside with me on a full time basis. I was therefore awarded care and control on a daily basis, but the joint custody clause remained in reference to major decisions affecting the children: dental, medical, education, religion and yes consent required for counseling. Dad's access was outlined as every other weekend, 2 weeks in the summer, mid week visit from after school to 8 pm with 48 hours notice and equal sharing of holidays like Christmas.
After 5 years, he has begun to utilize his access to mid week visits with notice. That is not a problem. However, his current wife is now also working int eh area and is showing up at the school unannounced and without notice wanting to take my daughter out to lunch. First, my understanding is that our court order is between the parents and step parents have about as much rights as that of a grandparent. More importantly, though, they both are refusing to give notice. Dad's position is that joint custody means equal access.
If this were an amicable agreement, I would not mind. However, step mom did the same thing 2 years ago, taking my son out of school,calling him weekly ( not dad calling only, step mom) and never asking to speak to the other kids, only my son. Subsequently, my son was cooerced to go and live with Dad and step mom and is refusing any contact with me. So I need to be clear about the definitions surrounding joint custody and care and control. I disagree that Dad or his wife can show up at the school without notice and take my daughter out to lunch. I am quite worried that he will drag this issue back to court saying I am in contempt of the order.
Clarity please?? I need some ground to stand on.
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