I have been in a CL relationship for almost 10 years, for the last 3 it has been lousy, we have not been intimate for 26 months (his choice to start with) I have been asking him to leave my home, I am the only one on title, I did buy this home after we got together but since we were not married, all the downpayment came from my previous home (he was a renter) and I have 3 children from my first marriage I did not want to possibly give away half of my increased value in my home were we not to get married.
I am the only one that pays mortgage, insurance taxes, although for the past few years he has contributed to utilities and groceries. All of the furniture was mine from before, with the exception of a few items he recently purchased.
We attended councilling last june, july, August, the last session he walked out of saying he has had enough. I then told him he needed to move on, take all his things I keep all of my things, I even told him he could have the items we purchased together (a vintage mercedes, fridge, washer-dryer) heck, he could take the towels if he wanted, just go. He will not leave. For the last 4 months I have asked him how the house hunt was going, if he needed help finding a new place (I am a realtor) he steadfastly refuses to go unless I give him half the home, or at lease half of the accumulated equity in the home.
Last year he made over 5 times what I made. I am the one who cooks, cleans, does the renos & home repairs, he only mows the lawn, this guy is a nightmare.
We stopped going to functions together almost 2 years ago, we have not had a vacation together in years. How do I make him leave
Also as a footnote when I met him he was earning less than 20k a year (at almost 30 years of age) I payed all his bills including his clothing for years. I had great earnings at the time. 3 years ago I became very sick and had to stop working for just over a year, I still payed mortgage, insurance, taxes groceries and it ate away my savings and I had to put things on my LOC secured by my home. He in turn made on average 180k per year for the past few years and has banked a tidy sum.
What do I do, how do I make him leave, he is making me and my 2 children left at home miserable, I can't even talk to his friends because he doesn't have any........help
I am the only one that pays mortgage, insurance taxes, although for the past few years he has contributed to utilities and groceries. All of the furniture was mine from before, with the exception of a few items he recently purchased.
We attended councilling last june, july, August, the last session he walked out of saying he has had enough. I then told him he needed to move on, take all his things I keep all of my things, I even told him he could have the items we purchased together (a vintage mercedes, fridge, washer-dryer) heck, he could take the towels if he wanted, just go. He will not leave. For the last 4 months I have asked him how the house hunt was going, if he needed help finding a new place (I am a realtor) he steadfastly refuses to go unless I give him half the home, or at lease half of the accumulated equity in the home.
Last year he made over 5 times what I made. I am the one who cooks, cleans, does the renos & home repairs, he only mows the lawn, this guy is a nightmare.
We stopped going to functions together almost 2 years ago, we have not had a vacation together in years. How do I make him leave
Also as a footnote when I met him he was earning less than 20k a year (at almost 30 years of age) I payed all his bills including his clothing for years. I had great earnings at the time. 3 years ago I became very sick and had to stop working for just over a year, I still payed mortgage, insurance, taxes groceries and it ate away my savings and I had to put things on my LOC secured by my home. He in turn made on average 180k per year for the past few years and has banked a tidy sum.
What do I do, how do I make him leave, he is making me and my 2 children left at home miserable, I can't even talk to his friends because he doesn't have any........help
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