Originally posted by workingthruit
Nice generalization.
But wrong.
I do ALL those things - AND work full-time.
Most of the working moms I know do too ... we don't have cleaning ladies, or nannies, or "let daycares raise our kids" - we are responsible, CONTRIBUTING members of society.
I drop my kids off at school in the morning, pick them up less than 2 hours after school gets out each day - take them to their extra-curricular activities, doctor appts, dentist appts, and NEVER feed them fast food during the week.
I am glad that you have the flexibility in your job to be able to drop your kids off at school and spend so much time with them. Any jobs that I have applied for require me to be at work for 8am which means leaving the house at 7:15am or earlier. That would mean if I had children to drop off at school, I would be dropping them off more than an hour before school started. Most jobs require that you work until 5pm. This would mean not getting home until 5:45pm or later. I am very glad for you that your situation works. Not all of them do.
According to you, those 2 hours a day - or 10 hours a week that don't I spend with my kids are worth $2000 a month to you.
Interesting, I should see if I can find anyone OTHER than our perverse family law system that agrees with that theory.
Better question is this - you say your kids are grown now, and you don't even see them ... how do you possibly justitfy not working now? I read your feeble excuses above about the past, but am more curious about your current situaton.
You are curious about my current situation, let me fill you in. I have 24 hours in my day. I spend 5 or more hours per day with my studies which I am carrying a 95% average in right now. I spend 2 hours per day helping my father with his dialysis and making sure his needs are met. I spend 2 hours per day in a long term care facility spending time with my mother who suffered a massive stroke six years ago. I spend two to three hours per day cooking, cleaning, paying bills, grocery shopping and whatever else needs to be done. Soooo, let me see........that is 12 hours of my accounted for. I spend 8 hours per night sleeping and that leaves 4 hours of my day unaccounted for. I guess I could probably go pump gas in those extra 4 hours because at this point that is all that is available for work in the town I live in. I do not have siblings and therefore I have responsibilities to my parents that most others don't.
It has also not gone unnoticed by me that you refuse to even acknowledge any comments that you can't try to talk your way out of ... such as your exes current wife supporting her own children, or why you can't work part time at the very least, and start actually becoming self-sufficient instead of just talking about it.
How do I know she isn't supporting her children???? My ex bought them both a car when they moved in with him and yes, he paid for those cars. My ex has stated in his affadavit that he has taken on full responsibility for his new wife's children and that included financial responsibility. So either he's blowing smoke or he has lied on his affadivit in court. You choose, he lies about everything else anyway. As far as becoming self sufficient......if you had read my posts you would know that I am working towards becoming self sufficient and upgrading my education so as to have enough earning potential to pay my bills!!!!!! What part of that don't you understand?????????
My personal experience tells me that supporting yourself, and being independent has many more rewards than living off of someone else's hard work ... give it a try, it might not be as bad as you imagine!
But wrong.
I do ALL those things - AND work full-time.
Most of the working moms I know do too ... we don't have cleaning ladies, or nannies, or "let daycares raise our kids" - we are responsible, CONTRIBUTING members of society.
I drop my kids off at school in the morning, pick them up less than 2 hours after school gets out each day - take them to their extra-curricular activities, doctor appts, dentist appts, and NEVER feed them fast food during the week.
I am glad that you have the flexibility in your job to be able to drop your kids off at school and spend so much time with them. Any jobs that I have applied for require me to be at work for 8am which means leaving the house at 7:15am or earlier. That would mean if I had children to drop off at school, I would be dropping them off more than an hour before school started. Most jobs require that you work until 5pm. This would mean not getting home until 5:45pm or later. I am very glad for you that your situation works. Not all of them do.
According to you, those 2 hours a day - or 10 hours a week that don't I spend with my kids are worth $2000 a month to you.
Interesting, I should see if I can find anyone OTHER than our perverse family law system that agrees with that theory.
Better question is this - you say your kids are grown now, and you don't even see them ... how do you possibly justitfy not working now? I read your feeble excuses above about the past, but am more curious about your current situaton.
You are curious about my current situation, let me fill you in. I have 24 hours in my day. I spend 5 or more hours per day with my studies which I am carrying a 95% average in right now. I spend 2 hours per day helping my father with his dialysis and making sure his needs are met. I spend 2 hours per day in a long term care facility spending time with my mother who suffered a massive stroke six years ago. I spend two to three hours per day cooking, cleaning, paying bills, grocery shopping and whatever else needs to be done. Soooo, let me see........that is 12 hours of my accounted for. I spend 8 hours per night sleeping and that leaves 4 hours of my day unaccounted for. I guess I could probably go pump gas in those extra 4 hours because at this point that is all that is available for work in the town I live in. I do not have siblings and therefore I have responsibilities to my parents that most others don't.
It has also not gone unnoticed by me that you refuse to even acknowledge any comments that you can't try to talk your way out of ... such as your exes current wife supporting her own children, or why you can't work part time at the very least, and start actually becoming self-sufficient instead of just talking about it.
How do I know she isn't supporting her children???? My ex bought them both a car when they moved in with him and yes, he paid for those cars. My ex has stated in his affadavit that he has taken on full responsibility for his new wife's children and that included financial responsibility. So either he's blowing smoke or he has lied on his affadivit in court. You choose, he lies about everything else anyway. As far as becoming self sufficient......if you had read my posts you would know that I am working towards becoming self sufficient and upgrading my education so as to have enough earning potential to pay my bills!!!!!! What part of that don't you understand?????????
My personal experience tells me that supporting yourself, and being independent has many more rewards than living off of someone else's hard work ... give it a try, it might not be as bad as you imagine!
I don't know what your problem is but it sounds to me like you are bitter and you are looking for others to take out your frustrations.
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