So after not seeing our son for over 10 months our son’s father decides to turn up at school and pick him up. Doesn’t notify me of his plans. My son calls me ten minutes after he is supposed to get on the bus to inform me his dad just turned up and he is going with him.
Last time his father picked him from the school was five years ago. And that was after we both agreed. We have a family court order in place dated 2014 which states mid week access is suppose to commence at 6.30pm on Wednesdays with father returning child to school the next morning at 8.45am
Any changes to this can of course be arranged amicably between the parents.
The last time the father exercised his mid week access was several years ago. Prior to the last 10 months the grandparents would pick up our son for every other weekend (Friday-Sunday). Which went ok. During COViD have done my best to facilitate relationship through phone calls with grandparents. They insist he call them every night. Last few months he has been forgetting to call every night. But calls 3-4 times a week. They’ve dropped by a number of times at our house to say hello without in person contact. Just waving from the window etc, This past Sunday they wanted to come by but it wasn’t a good time and told them it wasn’t a good idea. I don’t think they took it well.
So after not wanting to exercise ANY access for over 10 months, the father decides he is just going to drive to our son’s school and pick him up without notifying me.
Do I have reason to be upset that I was not notified? Even spoke to the grandfather this morning and had a pleasant conversation with him about his health but at no point did the grandfather indicate his son was planning on picking up his grandson from school. Father lives with his parents.
The school assumed I had been notified ahead of time and didn’t think to verify.
Context:
Son is now 14 years old.
Separated 14 years ago
We live an hour away from the grandparents. Different towns/regions.
Tons of litigation which ended with father from being prohibited from bringing any application/motion to court without first seeking permission from court.
Police enforcement clause removed after father abused it
Last time his father picked him from the school was five years ago. And that was after we both agreed. We have a family court order in place dated 2014 which states mid week access is suppose to commence at 6.30pm on Wednesdays with father returning child to school the next morning at 8.45am
Any changes to this can of course be arranged amicably between the parents.
The last time the father exercised his mid week access was several years ago. Prior to the last 10 months the grandparents would pick up our son for every other weekend (Friday-Sunday). Which went ok. During COViD have done my best to facilitate relationship through phone calls with grandparents. They insist he call them every night. Last few months he has been forgetting to call every night. But calls 3-4 times a week. They’ve dropped by a number of times at our house to say hello without in person contact. Just waving from the window etc, This past Sunday they wanted to come by but it wasn’t a good time and told them it wasn’t a good idea. I don’t think they took it well.
So after not wanting to exercise ANY access for over 10 months, the father decides he is just going to drive to our son’s school and pick him up without notifying me.
Do I have reason to be upset that I was not notified? Even spoke to the grandfather this morning and had a pleasant conversation with him about his health but at no point did the grandfather indicate his son was planning on picking up his grandson from school. Father lives with his parents.
The school assumed I had been notified ahead of time and didn’t think to verify.
Context:
Son is now 14 years old.
Separated 14 years ago
We live an hour away from the grandparents. Different towns/regions.
Tons of litigation which ended with father from being prohibited from bringing any application/motion to court without first seeking permission from court.
Police enforcement clause removed after father abused it
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