In April of 2017 my ex-husband and I had a settlement conference to change our final order of 2012. To make a long story short I will provide additional information if someone requests it to give their suggestion.
This has been a messy divorce with parental alienation by the passive aggressive parent. My 23 year old bipolar son lives with him so that he does not have to pay more child support, a plan my ex put in place. My 16 year old lives with me and is doing very well.
In April we spend all day in court 9-5:30 with a judge in order to reach a settlement. We finally came to an agreement and the order was sent to us 4 months later. The problem is that FRO will not enforce because line 150 of our returns are not written out in a $ amount and told me we have to change the order.
I tried to reach out to my ex-spouse and come to an understanding so we can deal with this ourselves but he does not respond. He has blocked my email, my number and does not respond to mailed correspondence. I sent him 2 claims to reimburse me for his portion of my son's wisdom teeth extraction which took place in June of 2017 and I have yet to receive anything.
I want to pay for my bipolar son's education, support and to move on but he refuses to respond to me. I guess he wants me to go through the courts.
We both self represented and I gave up anything I had asked him to reimburse me for such as prescription glasses, sports, trips, laptop etc. which was a normal expense in our home prior to our divorce.
I suffer from severe Crohn's disease, depression and anxiety among other ailments. Stress makes these health issues worse and this is why I pretty much gave up everything to resolve this whole mess. I just asked for guideline support and my son's education (ex-spouse's) portion. I find this whole process overwhelming and he knows this. He is taking advantage of me. He has not made any attempts to seek payment for my eldest son's university or child support as per our new order. He has not gone to court and is leaving it all to me. I hate this and wish I could have a judge do something where he does not put me in this position each time I need to get orthotics for our son or for him to pay the set-off of $260/month.
Is there anything I can do? Can he be held in contempt? I have the letters I have sent him where I try to compromise and resolve the payment of university and child support. Do I have to file a motion to change and ask the judge for a dollar amount to be written out?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I was hoping that day in April was the end of this mess but he just wants to "stick it to me" and I don't have the energy to fight anymore.
I want to add that my alienated son has not spoken to me in 2 1/2 years and feels entitled to this money. I owe him. I have spent the last 2 1/2 years grieving him, sending him e-transfers cause I feel sorry for him that he has no spending money and can't work and go to school and he has not even thanked me or talked to me.
At what point can I tell a judge well he obviously does not need the money for my son's education or child support from me if he's not willing to communicate with me so I can pay him and he pay me?
This has been a messy divorce with parental alienation by the passive aggressive parent. My 23 year old bipolar son lives with him so that he does not have to pay more child support, a plan my ex put in place. My 16 year old lives with me and is doing very well.
In April we spend all day in court 9-5:30 with a judge in order to reach a settlement. We finally came to an agreement and the order was sent to us 4 months later. The problem is that FRO will not enforce because line 150 of our returns are not written out in a $ amount and told me we have to change the order.
I tried to reach out to my ex-spouse and come to an understanding so we can deal with this ourselves but he does not respond. He has blocked my email, my number and does not respond to mailed correspondence. I sent him 2 claims to reimburse me for his portion of my son's wisdom teeth extraction which took place in June of 2017 and I have yet to receive anything.
I want to pay for my bipolar son's education, support and to move on but he refuses to respond to me. I guess he wants me to go through the courts.
We both self represented and I gave up anything I had asked him to reimburse me for such as prescription glasses, sports, trips, laptop etc. which was a normal expense in our home prior to our divorce.
I suffer from severe Crohn's disease, depression and anxiety among other ailments. Stress makes these health issues worse and this is why I pretty much gave up everything to resolve this whole mess. I just asked for guideline support and my son's education (ex-spouse's) portion. I find this whole process overwhelming and he knows this. He is taking advantage of me. He has not made any attempts to seek payment for my eldest son's university or child support as per our new order. He has not gone to court and is leaving it all to me. I hate this and wish I could have a judge do something where he does not put me in this position each time I need to get orthotics for our son or for him to pay the set-off of $260/month.
Is there anything I can do? Can he be held in contempt? I have the letters I have sent him where I try to compromise and resolve the payment of university and child support. Do I have to file a motion to change and ask the judge for a dollar amount to be written out?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I was hoping that day in April was the end of this mess but he just wants to "stick it to me" and I don't have the energy to fight anymore.
I want to add that my alienated son has not spoken to me in 2 1/2 years and feels entitled to this money. I owe him. I have spent the last 2 1/2 years grieving him, sending him e-transfers cause I feel sorry for him that he has no spending money and can't work and go to school and he has not even thanked me or talked to me.
At what point can I tell a judge well he obviously does not need the money for my son's education or child support from me if he's not willing to communicate with me so I can pay him and he pay me?
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