My Common Law seperation or divorce has been completed for 1.5 yrs settled at a SC in ONT. It took 6 court dates, 65k spent between two parents of a now 3 yr old child. In addition to the court action in ONT we settled the home division/sale on the court house steps in B.C where the home was located.
It started when I let the mother who has post pardom, visit her extended family in Northern ONT from B.C when our child was weeks old, to get support from her family who are excellent with children and very supportive in gerneral.
We agreed on coucililing to assist us in our relationship and 3 months later collectively bought her a ticket home to return with our child. Instead I was served to appear in court in ONT for jurisdiction. At that 1 hr hearing the justice accepted jurisdiction because our child had resided there the majority of its life.We both had lawyers.Access was not addressed.
At our next hearing months later I was given access finially and ordered to pay 67% ot tabled CS , a reduction for travel costs. Access was a few hours.
At the next hearing i was granted weekly access with overnights for as many times as i can make the trip from B.C to ONT and she was granted temp SS at 60% of table amount because she stayed without my concent, left a job earning 50k, and again very high access costs for me at 1500.00 a trip times 6 trips yearly with all the proof in front of the court.
At the SC she was granted full custody, 60% tabled CS (access costs) and 60% tabled SS with a final order ending after 4 years with no review.
I did my best to maintain the home in B.C but the costs of CS,SS, and travel for access were just too much, so I sold. I did recieve 75% of the equity because of the Common-Law laws in B.C( that differ from other provinces)
I don't feel ONT was the proper venue for custody,access,CS,and SS. We resided together for 6 yrs in B.C, both had good long term jobs here, a home here,and for a ONT justice to decide in 1 hr that my child could remain 7 provinces away for the rest of his life, I have trouble accepting that.
I dont agree with any SS based on the fact that she always supported herself and took off leaving me with high cost of access, she was never a stay at home mom except the 3 weeks before going to "visit family". 3 different ONT justices thought that i should pay SS. She now does not work.
I don't feel a Justice would have let me as the man, pull a stunt like that and be able to say perminantly. I have made the trip 23 times in 3.5 yrs and am committed to my child, I don't feel fairness in my situation.
Just wanted to tell my story, and also wish everyone the best
The Raven
It started when I let the mother who has post pardom, visit her extended family in Northern ONT from B.C when our child was weeks old, to get support from her family who are excellent with children and very supportive in gerneral.
We agreed on coucililing to assist us in our relationship and 3 months later collectively bought her a ticket home to return with our child. Instead I was served to appear in court in ONT for jurisdiction. At that 1 hr hearing the justice accepted jurisdiction because our child had resided there the majority of its life.We both had lawyers.Access was not addressed.
At our next hearing months later I was given access finially and ordered to pay 67% ot tabled CS , a reduction for travel costs. Access was a few hours.
At the next hearing i was granted weekly access with overnights for as many times as i can make the trip from B.C to ONT and she was granted temp SS at 60% of table amount because she stayed without my concent, left a job earning 50k, and again very high access costs for me at 1500.00 a trip times 6 trips yearly with all the proof in front of the court.
At the SC she was granted full custody, 60% tabled CS (access costs) and 60% tabled SS with a final order ending after 4 years with no review.
I did my best to maintain the home in B.C but the costs of CS,SS, and travel for access were just too much, so I sold. I did recieve 75% of the equity because of the Common-Law laws in B.C( that differ from other provinces)
I don't feel ONT was the proper venue for custody,access,CS,and SS. We resided together for 6 yrs in B.C, both had good long term jobs here, a home here,and for a ONT justice to decide in 1 hr that my child could remain 7 provinces away for the rest of his life, I have trouble accepting that.
I dont agree with any SS based on the fact that she always supported herself and took off leaving me with high cost of access, she was never a stay at home mom except the 3 weeks before going to "visit family". 3 different ONT justices thought that i should pay SS. She now does not work.
I don't feel a Justice would have let me as the man, pull a stunt like that and be able to say perminantly. I have made the trip 23 times in 3.5 yrs and am committed to my child, I don't feel fairness in my situation.
Just wanted to tell my story, and also wish everyone the best
The Raven
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