Hi,
I am 2.5 years and counting, still with no hearing on custody in a high-conflict case, so essentially having to make it up as I go, informing myself to the extent possible.
In sum (gory details aside), the case is dealt with in the Quebec system since I had moved into my ex's house in Gatineau (i.e. common law) from Ottawa, where we all lived until my son was two years old when I left, and moved back to Ottawa. The father is Francophone, but bilingual; I am Anglophone.
As per an interim agreement, our son (now 4 years old) spends about 30% with his father and 70% with me and goes to a daycare in my neighbourhood. We have a court date for the Spring (father petitioning for 50-50), but his lawyers have delayed many times so I am not certain even by Spring we will have a decision.
Meanwhile, the father wants to register him in kindergarden in Gatineau. I am wondering if anyone has experience with the implications of schooling across the Ottawa - Gatineau divide? Specifically, does the court system think it is in the child's interest to move to 50:50 arrangement if it means one week traveling between provinces for the child?
Secondly, has anyone ever seen where child support calculations deviate from provincially set tables in such cases to better reflect true disposable income? If any one has lived in Ottawa and Gatineau, they will know costs of living are quite different, for example with subsidized daycare in Gatineau, but cheaper taxes in Ottawa, etc.
Thirdly, is there truly now way to ensure court proceedings in my only fluent language, English? I am told it will be up to the judge of the day which language he/she chooses, and I can hire an interpreter, if I wish. My ex since separation will only communicate in French.
Fourth, is there any way to transfer the case, at least over the long run to another provincial jurisdiction? My son was born in Ottawa, has his doctor, dentist, daycare, extracurricular activities, etc. here.
Lots of questions, but I imagine my case is not unique. Please don't advise me to consult a lawyer (unless you know a really good one) because that has not helped yet!
Thanks.
I am 2.5 years and counting, still with no hearing on custody in a high-conflict case, so essentially having to make it up as I go, informing myself to the extent possible.
In sum (gory details aside), the case is dealt with in the Quebec system since I had moved into my ex's house in Gatineau (i.e. common law) from Ottawa, where we all lived until my son was two years old when I left, and moved back to Ottawa. The father is Francophone, but bilingual; I am Anglophone.
As per an interim agreement, our son (now 4 years old) spends about 30% with his father and 70% with me and goes to a daycare in my neighbourhood. We have a court date for the Spring (father petitioning for 50-50), but his lawyers have delayed many times so I am not certain even by Spring we will have a decision.
Meanwhile, the father wants to register him in kindergarden in Gatineau. I am wondering if anyone has experience with the implications of schooling across the Ottawa - Gatineau divide? Specifically, does the court system think it is in the child's interest to move to 50:50 arrangement if it means one week traveling between provinces for the child?
Secondly, has anyone ever seen where child support calculations deviate from provincially set tables in such cases to better reflect true disposable income? If any one has lived in Ottawa and Gatineau, they will know costs of living are quite different, for example with subsidized daycare in Gatineau, but cheaper taxes in Ottawa, etc.
Thirdly, is there truly now way to ensure court proceedings in my only fluent language, English? I am told it will be up to the judge of the day which language he/she chooses, and I can hire an interpreter, if I wish. My ex since separation will only communicate in French.
Fourth, is there any way to transfer the case, at least over the long run to another provincial jurisdiction? My son was born in Ottawa, has his doctor, dentist, daycare, extracurricular activities, etc. here.
Lots of questions, but I imagine my case is not unique. Please don't advise me to consult a lawyer (unless you know a really good one) because that has not helped yet!
Thanks.
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