Hello,
I have joint custody of my two children. They attend a private school in a small town and live at their fathers’ house a little more than mine. Mainly, they live with their father for more school days when information is being sent home from the school. This information could include test results, permission slips, school information ECT.
It was the school principal’s position, after checking with the school boards legal team, in November 2008 that I was not going to receive permission slips for the kids. Rather, i would get a notification that something has gone to my ex-husbands house and i would have to "work it out" with him if there was a difference of opinion on any matter. We contacted the school board and that same legal team's opinion was quickly changed to, "I would receive all permission slips." I beleive that the principal was not honest about the information he claims he received
A little background-
1. The relationship with my husband is NOT amiable. He went through many efforts during the divorce to make my life miserable.
2. My ex-husbands family has a long history at the private school. His father went there, his mother was a teacher there and of course he went there.
3. My husband fought hard during the divorce to not be responsible for passing on any information from doctors, dentists, schools ECT. In fact, the settlement reads that he will sign "letters of direction" for me to obtain the information directly from the source.
Now in March of 09 I had been receiving journals from my ex about how well the girls were doing in school. I had noticed though that my youngest was having significant problems with basic reading. The day before report cards came home my ex sends me an email stating the youngest is doing poorly in school and may need to be held back. A far cry from how well she was doing just 12 days before that, according to him. I felt my ex was playing games, for whatever his reasons, with my Childs education and I was not going to let it happen
To this point my ex had passed no test, quiz, book reports or any other school results on to me. I only received what was coming home on the 6-8 school days a month i had access and the mis information he was giving me. We informed the school that we would need all of the results I’ve mentioned above. The principal told us that it was not necessary and a "burden" on the school (he really said that!). This answer was not satisfying to me. And, once again he claimed I should just ask my ex-husband for these results. Again I explained about the poor relationship with my ex.
Now if this was not displeasing enough, after the meeting I received an email form my ex who was lecturing me on putting the school in the middle of our problem. So, as you can see, after our private meeting the principal thought proper protocol was to call my ex to fill him in on what had happened during our private meeting. This was the second time the principal had pulled this stunt.
We have currently had to push this issue through to the board of directors of the private school. Some days I laugh and think is this really happening?!
So...
1. As a parent, am I not legally entitled to receive information from my kid’s school if requested?
2. Is the school not violating many privacy issues by choosing not to let have information about my kids?
I am a very trusting person (to a fault sometimes) by nature and i feel like sometimes during my whole divorce I lost focus on the obvious. Like for example, I'm there parent and should have information sent to me that was clearly intended on going home in the first place!
The story is longer and more disgusting but I think the two questions I have above is what I am after. Anyone with some insight to this issue would be helpful.
Thanks!
I have joint custody of my two children. They attend a private school in a small town and live at their fathers’ house a little more than mine. Mainly, they live with their father for more school days when information is being sent home from the school. This information could include test results, permission slips, school information ECT.
It was the school principal’s position, after checking with the school boards legal team, in November 2008 that I was not going to receive permission slips for the kids. Rather, i would get a notification that something has gone to my ex-husbands house and i would have to "work it out" with him if there was a difference of opinion on any matter. We contacted the school board and that same legal team's opinion was quickly changed to, "I would receive all permission slips." I beleive that the principal was not honest about the information he claims he received
A little background-
1. The relationship with my husband is NOT amiable. He went through many efforts during the divorce to make my life miserable.
2. My ex-husbands family has a long history at the private school. His father went there, his mother was a teacher there and of course he went there.
3. My husband fought hard during the divorce to not be responsible for passing on any information from doctors, dentists, schools ECT. In fact, the settlement reads that he will sign "letters of direction" for me to obtain the information directly from the source.
Now in March of 09 I had been receiving journals from my ex about how well the girls were doing in school. I had noticed though that my youngest was having significant problems with basic reading. The day before report cards came home my ex sends me an email stating the youngest is doing poorly in school and may need to be held back. A far cry from how well she was doing just 12 days before that, according to him. I felt my ex was playing games, for whatever his reasons, with my Childs education and I was not going to let it happen
To this point my ex had passed no test, quiz, book reports or any other school results on to me. I only received what was coming home on the 6-8 school days a month i had access and the mis information he was giving me. We informed the school that we would need all of the results I’ve mentioned above. The principal told us that it was not necessary and a "burden" on the school (he really said that!). This answer was not satisfying to me. And, once again he claimed I should just ask my ex-husband for these results. Again I explained about the poor relationship with my ex.
Now if this was not displeasing enough, after the meeting I received an email form my ex who was lecturing me on putting the school in the middle of our problem. So, as you can see, after our private meeting the principal thought proper protocol was to call my ex to fill him in on what had happened during our private meeting. This was the second time the principal had pulled this stunt.
We have currently had to push this issue through to the board of directors of the private school. Some days I laugh and think is this really happening?!
So...
1. As a parent, am I not legally entitled to receive information from my kid’s school if requested?
2. Is the school not violating many privacy issues by choosing not to let have information about my kids?
I am a very trusting person (to a fault sometimes) by nature and i feel like sometimes during my whole divorce I lost focus on the obvious. Like for example, I'm there parent and should have information sent to me that was clearly intended on going home in the first place!
The story is longer and more disgusting but I think the two questions I have above is what I am after. Anyone with some insight to this issue would be helpful.
Thanks!
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