This is more of a vent and self pitty post but I know a few of you can relate. We had my stepkids this weekend, S9 and D6. The weekend was great! We had a lot of fun. Today when the kids got dressed to go back to mom's I saw the shoes S9 was wearing. The soles were half off on both the shoes and he had holes in them where his socks were sticking out.
I asked him what he did to his shoes, thinking he did it this weekend as they were running around playing with cousins all weekend. He said they have been like that for a while but mom told him they would last him long enough until he could wear sandals every day. The clothes he changed back into for moms place we're all ripped, his shirt had a big rip in the shoulder.
I get sometimes parents send old clothes with the kids when they go to the other parents house and I guess this wouldn't bug me so much if it wasn't for my fiancé's brother pointing out tonight how well we dress the kids compared to what he sees them in on a weekly basis.
We don't buy the kids expensive clothing, mostly Walmart and I will hit up the children's place when they have good sales, but we try to make sure they are at least presentable. S9 said to me today he couldn't wait for summer when he gets to spend his weeks with us.
When we dropped him off tonight he didn't want to get out of the car. His eyes filled with tears and he just looked at me. I hugged him and said we would see him in a couple weeks and he went with his dad up to the house.
Now this is all normal stuff but the biggest thing that gets to me is how put together D6 is. She always has nice clothes, new shoes, fancy hair, etc. A beautiful little girl. I can't help but feel like mom pays more attention to her than S9. They both have made comments about S9 being ganged up on because he is the only boy and D6 laughs about it. S9 is a sensitive kid and you can see this bugs him.
I guess I just don't know what to do for him. When they are with us, they both abide by the same rules and are treated the same. I don't want to see the sadness or hurt in his eyes anymore. Makes me so sad...
I asked him what he did to his shoes, thinking he did it this weekend as they were running around playing with cousins all weekend. He said they have been like that for a while but mom told him they would last him long enough until he could wear sandals every day. The clothes he changed back into for moms place we're all ripped, his shirt had a big rip in the shoulder.
I get sometimes parents send old clothes with the kids when they go to the other parents house and I guess this wouldn't bug me so much if it wasn't for my fiancé's brother pointing out tonight how well we dress the kids compared to what he sees them in on a weekly basis.
We don't buy the kids expensive clothing, mostly Walmart and I will hit up the children's place when they have good sales, but we try to make sure they are at least presentable. S9 said to me today he couldn't wait for summer when he gets to spend his weeks with us.
When we dropped him off tonight he didn't want to get out of the car. His eyes filled with tears and he just looked at me. I hugged him and said we would see him in a couple weeks and he went with his dad up to the house.
Now this is all normal stuff but the biggest thing that gets to me is how put together D6 is. She always has nice clothes, new shoes, fancy hair, etc. A beautiful little girl. I can't help but feel like mom pays more attention to her than S9. They both have made comments about S9 being ganged up on because he is the only boy and D6 laughs about it. S9 is a sensitive kid and you can see this bugs him.
I guess I just don't know what to do for him. When they are with us, they both abide by the same rules and are treated the same. I don't want to see the sadness or hurt in his eyes anymore. Makes me so sad...
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