Hello, I am in the "Stepmother" role in a very sticky situation. I am the girlfriend of the father in the situation, if anyone could offer any suggestions that would be great.
My boyfriend and his ex separated a couple of years back. They were common law not married but have one child together with the mother also having a child from a previous relationship. They argued a lot and my boyfriend did not want to leave his child at the time. His ex called the police and had him charged with 3 counts of assault (to get him out of the house) and has told me that they were false (not that anyone believes that). He ended up pleading to one count.
For about 6 months my boyfriend took both children for visits. The mother then decided she no longer wanted her older child coming (the older's child had not seen his bio dad in over 6 years). She would regularly disappear on vacations, post pictures on the internet of herself falling over drunk with the child in her arms and cause a great deal of problems.
Moving ahead they had a one year long custody battle which ended this year mid august, she had written all of the horrible things about my boyfriend that she could thinking he would no longer be allowed in the childs life. Throughout this time she continued to disappear from time to time but would always come back to get the child in the end.
We had OCL involved and they determined that at this time both parents are capable but sole to the mother with decent access to my boyfriend (first 3 weekends and extras because they live far apart). We opted for a fairly specific court order because they dont get along.
Since the court order in August the mother FREQUENTLY has been violating the court order. My boyfriend wanted to file a contempt motion but we cannot afford a lawyer and he is worried that a judge will say deal with it because it has been so soon since the order was endorsed. She has not denied any access but she had moved and refuses to meet the terms of the order based on this and frequently exposes the child to adult conflict though the order outlines she is not to.
Can OCL be called back in. She also moved in with her older child's father who she described in the OCL report as an alcoholic who is in and out of rehab and a bad influence (to explain why she keeps him away)
NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!
My boyfriend and his ex separated a couple of years back. They were common law not married but have one child together with the mother also having a child from a previous relationship. They argued a lot and my boyfriend did not want to leave his child at the time. His ex called the police and had him charged with 3 counts of assault (to get him out of the house) and has told me that they were false (not that anyone believes that). He ended up pleading to one count.
For about 6 months my boyfriend took both children for visits. The mother then decided she no longer wanted her older child coming (the older's child had not seen his bio dad in over 6 years). She would regularly disappear on vacations, post pictures on the internet of herself falling over drunk with the child in her arms and cause a great deal of problems.
Moving ahead they had a one year long custody battle which ended this year mid august, she had written all of the horrible things about my boyfriend that she could thinking he would no longer be allowed in the childs life. Throughout this time she continued to disappear from time to time but would always come back to get the child in the end.
We had OCL involved and they determined that at this time both parents are capable but sole to the mother with decent access to my boyfriend (first 3 weekends and extras because they live far apart). We opted for a fairly specific court order because they dont get along.
Since the court order in August the mother FREQUENTLY has been violating the court order. My boyfriend wanted to file a contempt motion but we cannot afford a lawyer and he is worried that a judge will say deal with it because it has been so soon since the order was endorsed. She has not denied any access but she had moved and refuses to meet the terms of the order based on this and frequently exposes the child to adult conflict though the order outlines she is not to.
Can OCL be called back in. She also moved in with her older child's father who she described in the OCL report as an alcoholic who is in and out of rehab and a bad influence (to explain why she keeps him away)
NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!
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