I made an application for sole custody based on verbal and emotional abuse by ex wife. This was after 7 months of trying to get the collaborative approach moving but that was met with deliberate stalls and delays which made me realize negotiating with this person is pointless.
So divorce process is not moving anywhere...still no formal response (and its now like 90 days since due) to application, first CC to get consent to sell home, release CAS reports, and get OCL involved has to be rescheduled and no new date in sight.
I want to move this along as we are stuck in MH together and its affecting everybody's well being. She is on legal aid, works minimum 10 hours a week minimum wage. Is getting very comfortable in the separation phase since I cover all expenses including interest on matrimonial debt.
Would backing down to joint custody with a 50-50 shared access at minimum be held against me at this point to hopefully speed things up and avoid trial? I believe in the long run, my kids will get sick of her behavior and want to live with me anyways. I don't want to drag them through an OCL assessment and the info on this sight on OCL suggests OCL is a risk. CAS reports may be damning but 2 of the 3 cases concluded validating the behavior occurred but assessed to risk to children as low. The third case is open and ongoing largely because the situation in the home is very tense.
I never thought in my life divorcing someone would be so complicated. Perhaps my application was too aggressive despite my legitimate concerns.
Any advice on how to turn this around?
So divorce process is not moving anywhere...still no formal response (and its now like 90 days since due) to application, first CC to get consent to sell home, release CAS reports, and get OCL involved has to be rescheduled and no new date in sight.
I want to move this along as we are stuck in MH together and its affecting everybody's well being. She is on legal aid, works minimum 10 hours a week minimum wage. Is getting very comfortable in the separation phase since I cover all expenses including interest on matrimonial debt.
Would backing down to joint custody with a 50-50 shared access at minimum be held against me at this point to hopefully speed things up and avoid trial? I believe in the long run, my kids will get sick of her behavior and want to live with me anyways. I don't want to drag them through an OCL assessment and the info on this sight on OCL suggests OCL is a risk. CAS reports may be damning but 2 of the 3 cases concluded validating the behavior occurred but assessed to risk to children as low. The third case is open and ongoing largely because the situation in the home is very tense.
I never thought in my life divorcing someone would be so complicated. Perhaps my application was too aggressive despite my legitimate concerns.
Any advice on how to turn this around?
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