Question for a relative...
Separated from ex fiancé for two years, two children 50-50 following 2-2-5 schedule.
Communication was always between mom and dad either text or email, sometimes over the phone... it wasn’t perfect on either end all the time but for the most part they were both civil. However there were some times where Dad would try and get sexual in nature in his texts with mom and mom blew this off. It was then found out that Dad had also been sending sexual messages to a few mutual friends... a month ago the new wife found these messages on Dads phone and since has told mom that she is NOT to contact Dad regarding anything, including the children... any communication is to go through her.
Mom has continued to email Dad but a response always comes from the new wife’s email, mom turns around and responds to Dads personal email and once again gets a response from new wife. Mom has advised Dad she will not be speaking to new wife regarding their children. New wife has responded with a massive email stating they have spoken to their lawyer and Dad speaking to mom isn’t good for Dads well being and as such mom can only communicate through new wife. Mom would like to write another email stating that she is blocking new wife’s email and will only communicate through Dads personal email (knowing full well new wife will still be the one responding) but she doesn’t want to be corresponding through new wife’s email. If it’s through Dads email and he chooses to allow new wife to respond he cannot later state he never received the emails because Mom only communicated through new wife.
Does mom have any other options here? New wife has always been super demeaning to Mom in all her communications and Mom really just doesn’t want to deal with the new wife. New wife has stated because she’s the step mother she has just as much rights to make decisions for the children as mom and dad do and crap like that (which we know is simply not true)... mom just wants to communicate what needs to be with Dad and not have the drama dealing with the new wife.
For clarity... they have an unwitnessed parenting plan they have been following since about a month after separation. Any communication is about changes to schedule... like this week one child was sick so mom stayed home and emailed dad to let him know child was sick so both kids were with her for the day (other child doesn’t go to school just daycare) and to let her know when he would like her to drop the kids off or when he would like to pick them up. The response from the new wife was ranting about how mom didn’t have the authority to make that decision without speaking to them to determine how sick child was and that they would not be picking children up due to her laziness (not sending child to school and daycare) and mom could drop them off at X time... called Mom “little girl”, “lazy”, “would get her eyes open soon”, etc.
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Separated from ex fiancé for two years, two children 50-50 following 2-2-5 schedule.
Communication was always between mom and dad either text or email, sometimes over the phone... it wasn’t perfect on either end all the time but for the most part they were both civil. However there were some times where Dad would try and get sexual in nature in his texts with mom and mom blew this off. It was then found out that Dad had also been sending sexual messages to a few mutual friends... a month ago the new wife found these messages on Dads phone and since has told mom that she is NOT to contact Dad regarding anything, including the children... any communication is to go through her.
Mom has continued to email Dad but a response always comes from the new wife’s email, mom turns around and responds to Dads personal email and once again gets a response from new wife. Mom has advised Dad she will not be speaking to new wife regarding their children. New wife has responded with a massive email stating they have spoken to their lawyer and Dad speaking to mom isn’t good for Dads well being and as such mom can only communicate through new wife. Mom would like to write another email stating that she is blocking new wife’s email and will only communicate through Dads personal email (knowing full well new wife will still be the one responding) but she doesn’t want to be corresponding through new wife’s email. If it’s through Dads email and he chooses to allow new wife to respond he cannot later state he never received the emails because Mom only communicated through new wife.
Does mom have any other options here? New wife has always been super demeaning to Mom in all her communications and Mom really just doesn’t want to deal with the new wife. New wife has stated because she’s the step mother she has just as much rights to make decisions for the children as mom and dad do and crap like that (which we know is simply not true)... mom just wants to communicate what needs to be with Dad and not have the drama dealing with the new wife.
For clarity... they have an unwitnessed parenting plan they have been following since about a month after separation. Any communication is about changes to schedule... like this week one child was sick so mom stayed home and emailed dad to let him know child was sick so both kids were with her for the day (other child doesn’t go to school just daycare) and to let her know when he would like her to drop the kids off or when he would like to pick them up. The response from the new wife was ranting about how mom didn’t have the authority to make that decision without speaking to them to determine how sick child was and that they would not be picking children up due to her laziness (not sending child to school and daycare) and mom could drop them off at X time... called Mom “little girl”, “lazy”, “would get her eyes open soon”, etc.
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