There's a lot more to shared parenting than I had thought. It almost feels like everything has to be discussed, even the damn packing of your child's lunch. Jokes, aside. For the yearly science fairs.. where at least 2 months of notice is given.. how do you all handle it? Historically, including when I was EOW, we would alternate. One year I would do it and one year mom.
Now, I feel like mom was use it as an opportunity this year just to communicate with me to annoy me and make demands. This would look like something like her messaging me on my time with a laundry list of tasks and deadlines for the science fair project.
Would it be unreasonable of me to push back and state I want to stick with the status quo of us alternating and that she be responsible this year per our historiical rotation?
Of course, if she reaches out before submitting in the intake sheet to see if we want to do it together and for us to decide on a project together and allocate tasks, then that might be different. But if it is her typiical way of just reaching out to me a month later telling me what the child has decided to do with only a discussion with mom and not me, followed with demands and deadlines , then that's where my irritation comes from.
How do you guys handle it?
Now, I feel like mom was use it as an opportunity this year just to communicate with me to annoy me and make demands. This would look like something like her messaging me on my time with a laundry list of tasks and deadlines for the science fair project.
Would it be unreasonable of me to push back and state I want to stick with the status quo of us alternating and that she be responsible this year per our historiical rotation?
Of course, if she reaches out before submitting in the intake sheet to see if we want to do it together and for us to decide on a project together and allocate tasks, then that might be different. But if it is her typiical way of just reaching out to me a month later telling me what the child has decided to do with only a discussion with mom and not me, followed with demands and deadlines , then that's where my irritation comes from.
How do you guys handle it?
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