^ If you get that opportunity, will you be happy and not complain that you are doing 90-100%? Because it seems like doing all that in past has given you a lot of ammunition.
When families split up, things change. Your ex is going to step up and parent, even if he does a crappy job, even if he is learning as he goes, even if will be always be a selfish jerk, he will be parenting and that will make it different for you than it ever has been before. You need to let go of the expectation that your life and your parenting style doesn't have to change. It will change. If you fight to keep it from changing, then you are fighting to lock your ex out of parenting, whether you see that right now or not.
I'm not saying you shouldn't get your 70%, but you do need to loosen up your expectations a bit.
When families split up, things change. Your ex is going to step up and parent, even if he does a crappy job, even if he is learning as he goes, even if will be always be a selfish jerk, he will be parenting and that will make it different for you than it ever has been before. You need to let go of the expectation that your life and your parenting style doesn't have to change. It will change. If you fight to keep it from changing, then you are fighting to lock your ex out of parenting, whether you see that right now or not.
I'm not saying you shouldn't get your 70%, but you do need to loosen up your expectations a bit.
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