Good Morning All,
More issues with my ex, just wanted some of your opinions on my most recent situation. Those of you who have been kind enough to respond to some of my previous posts will see some common threads here I'm sure!
Currently S4 goes to school in my area. I get him on and off the bus and do all of the driving to get him to and from his mother's house about a 30 min drive away on her days. There is nothing in our Final Order (on consent) to indicate that I have to do this, I do it voluntarily because I enjoy the extra time with my boy (however if she picked him up from me after school he and I would have the same amount of time together and less rushed too). This has been the situation since he started school in September 2016.
More often lately his mother is making things difficult by getting him ready late (which has caused me to be late for work) or taking him in when she feels like it and not giving me any notice, usually when she is mad at me for something. I have told her that she can take him to school herself on all of her days if she wants and pick him up from my house after school, but she says that she can't so I have to or he will need to move schools. There is no reason that I can see that she can't take him, except that she isn't great with mornings or being on time for things (not news to me as she was like that when we were married). I feel like she is trying to blackmail me into making me do all of the driving in perpetuity.
So, my questions are...
1. Since I have done the driving since September, does that make it the status quo and I would look bad in front of a judge if I don't keep doing it?
2. If I refuse to do the driving for her access before and after school can she use that as Material Change in Circumstances to try to get his school changed? (again there is nothing in the FO about driving)
3. If she has to do the driving to get him to and from school could she force him into a daycare after school rather than have to pick him up from me when I a right there and available? (we have joint custody 50/50 btw)
Thanks in advance!
More issues with my ex, just wanted some of your opinions on my most recent situation. Those of you who have been kind enough to respond to some of my previous posts will see some common threads here I'm sure!
Currently S4 goes to school in my area. I get him on and off the bus and do all of the driving to get him to and from his mother's house about a 30 min drive away on her days. There is nothing in our Final Order (on consent) to indicate that I have to do this, I do it voluntarily because I enjoy the extra time with my boy (however if she picked him up from me after school he and I would have the same amount of time together and less rushed too). This has been the situation since he started school in September 2016.
More often lately his mother is making things difficult by getting him ready late (which has caused me to be late for work) or taking him in when she feels like it and not giving me any notice, usually when she is mad at me for something. I have told her that she can take him to school herself on all of her days if she wants and pick him up from my house after school, but she says that she can't so I have to or he will need to move schools. There is no reason that I can see that she can't take him, except that she isn't great with mornings or being on time for things (not news to me as she was like that when we were married). I feel like she is trying to blackmail me into making me do all of the driving in perpetuity.
So, my questions are...
1. Since I have done the driving since September, does that make it the status quo and I would look bad in front of a judge if I don't keep doing it?
2. If I refuse to do the driving for her access before and after school can she use that as Material Change in Circumstances to try to get his school changed? (again there is nothing in the FO about driving)
3. If she has to do the driving to get him to and from school could she force him into a daycare after school rather than have to pick him up from me when I a right there and available? (we have joint custody 50/50 btw)
Thanks in advance!
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