No advice sought- just a rant.
Took a bad spill a week ago and ended up with a broken ankle. Shout out to my mom who picked me up - dropped me to emerg then promptly took my daughter to see Santa (we were on our way out of the house to see the big guy when I ate some pavement and she was SO excited)...while I was waiting for xrays and stuff I called ex because I was supposed to drop D2 at his place that afternoon. When I explained what happened he got testy and said “so what does this mean for me?” I said I’d appreciate it if he could do pickups and drop offs for the next couple of weeks . Usually they pick her up at my parents place and I pick her up from his mom’s place. I agreed to this because his sister is the supervisor and she has kids and I didn’t want to make her evenings longer.
Anyways- they did drop her off the same afternoon I got home from the hospital. Weekend visit rolls around and at the pickup- I thank his sister for doing the drop offs too. She says no problem.
Skip to later in the evening when he calls and asks where I am...I tell him I’m at home because I broke my right ankle and can’t drive. He says *HE* never agreed to bring her back after his time with her and I have to come pick her up. I apologize for the confusion and ask that they drop her home...
She gets home and after I feed her I send and OFW message again apologizing for the confusion, and ASKING if he can drop her off on the extra days we agreed to over the holidays- basically every other day for two weeks. He calls me lights into me - railing at me that her visits with him are half of my responsibility and I have to make arrangements to pick her up because he’s not doing my job for me...and that if I can’t arrange to have someone drive to pick her up....that means I can’t adequately take care of her and he should just “report” me. I dont know who he’s going to report me to... I told him that if he questions my ability to take care of her - he can do what he feels is necessary and I ask him to just answer on OFW.
Am I crazy- don’t most non custodial parents do pick ups AND drop offs after their parenting time? Is it too much to ask for a bit of compassion...or I dunno- just not yell at me?
Also- fuck 2018.
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Took a bad spill a week ago and ended up with a broken ankle. Shout out to my mom who picked me up - dropped me to emerg then promptly took my daughter to see Santa (we were on our way out of the house to see the big guy when I ate some pavement and she was SO excited)...while I was waiting for xrays and stuff I called ex because I was supposed to drop D2 at his place that afternoon. When I explained what happened he got testy and said “so what does this mean for me?” I said I’d appreciate it if he could do pickups and drop offs for the next couple of weeks . Usually they pick her up at my parents place and I pick her up from his mom’s place. I agreed to this because his sister is the supervisor and she has kids and I didn’t want to make her evenings longer.
Anyways- they did drop her off the same afternoon I got home from the hospital. Weekend visit rolls around and at the pickup- I thank his sister for doing the drop offs too. She says no problem.
Skip to later in the evening when he calls and asks where I am...I tell him I’m at home because I broke my right ankle and can’t drive. He says *HE* never agreed to bring her back after his time with her and I have to come pick her up. I apologize for the confusion and ask that they drop her home...
She gets home and after I feed her I send and OFW message again apologizing for the confusion, and ASKING if he can drop her off on the extra days we agreed to over the holidays- basically every other day for two weeks. He calls me lights into me - railing at me that her visits with him are half of my responsibility and I have to make arrangements to pick her up because he’s not doing my job for me...and that if I can’t arrange to have someone drive to pick her up....that means I can’t adequately take care of her and he should just “report” me. I dont know who he’s going to report me to... I told him that if he questions my ability to take care of her - he can do what he feels is necessary and I ask him to just answer on OFW.
Am I crazy- don’t most non custodial parents do pick ups AND drop offs after their parenting time? Is it too much to ask for a bit of compassion...or I dunno- just not yell at me?
Also- fuck 2018.
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