My STBX and I separated in Jan and have been living in the same matrimonial home since (me living and trying to parent my 2 girls in the basement). We have exchanged many lawyer letters over the last 8 months and they have essentially ignored, lied and or cheated throughout. She continues to not disclosure many assets that I am aware of, refuses to address custody and has stolen all the jewelry from the home and our safety deposit box.
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They have essentially tried everything to get me out of the house rather then trying to resolve “amicably” as they keep stating.
<O</OIt's terrible living condition - her family is large and supporting her in many ways and brother is a lawyer writing all her materials behind the scenes. They have tried to guilt me to leave the home, made false accusations, tried to burden me with many additional responsibilities - cleaning schedules, laundry schedules, etc. But I have overcome these and continue to remain in the home with my girls.
We have an informal 2 - 2 - 5 schedule with the kids but since we live in the same home she interfers at every opportunity on my nights. Everyone has told me not to leave the home without a court order or signed agreement - but life is so miserable there that after 8 months I don't know how much more I can endure until the December case conference.
So my main support has been a female friend of over 23 years and because we’ve been so close we have developed a relationship and life is actually a little more bearable. My kids have known her and her two children since birth – so being around them is the norm although they don’t know anything other then we are friends.
So here is what I need opinion on – we discussed her renting a bigger apartment in the area. Kids all go to the same day care and school – so on my days with the girls rather then being in the matrimonial home I stay with the children in the new rental apartment with her and her children i.e. Monday / Tuesday I drop them off / pick them up from school / daycare and we go to this residence. Wednesday Ex picks them up and I of course stay at matrimonial home so she can’t say I’m moved out. Of course, this would be something I just start doing because Ex would never agree. Thoughts please on approach – it would go along way for my sanity!!
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They have essentially tried everything to get me out of the house rather then trying to resolve “amicably” as they keep stating.
<O</OIt's terrible living condition - her family is large and supporting her in many ways and brother is a lawyer writing all her materials behind the scenes. They have tried to guilt me to leave the home, made false accusations, tried to burden me with many additional responsibilities - cleaning schedules, laundry schedules, etc. But I have overcome these and continue to remain in the home with my girls.
We have an informal 2 - 2 - 5 schedule with the kids but since we live in the same home she interfers at every opportunity on my nights. Everyone has told me not to leave the home without a court order or signed agreement - but life is so miserable there that after 8 months I don't know how much more I can endure until the December case conference.
So my main support has been a female friend of over 23 years and because we’ve been so close we have developed a relationship and life is actually a little more bearable. My kids have known her and her two children since birth – so being around them is the norm although they don’t know anything other then we are friends.
So here is what I need opinion on – we discussed her renting a bigger apartment in the area. Kids all go to the same day care and school – so on my days with the girls rather then being in the matrimonial home I stay with the children in the new rental apartment with her and her children i.e. Monday / Tuesday I drop them off / pick them up from school / daycare and we go to this residence. Wednesday Ex picks them up and I of course stay at matrimonial home so she can’t say I’m moved out. Of course, this would be something I just start doing because Ex would never agree. Thoughts please on approach – it would go along way for my sanity!!
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