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Old 06-12-2013, 10:57 AM
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Default Confused and Alone

where do i start, I'm hoping someone can help, give support or advice, help me not feel like the sky is falling.
I am a 38y/o man, married for almost 11 years. My wife is abusive, as recently as May 3, she hit me, when I picked up that phone to call the police the started punching herself and saying that she would tell them that I hit her. She has, in the past told me she would ruin me and tell me i would never see my son.
I'll give insight to what kind of father I am, her own mother spent the majority of her career in early child hood care as well as special needs care in younger children, she has two sons as well as my wife, she told my wife that in all of her experience including her own kids she has never seen a son as close to his father as my son is with me.
I am the primary care giver to him, my wife frequently comes home from work and sits on the couch and does nothing. I have to work all day pick up my son from school, take him home, take him to the park, bathe, feed do homework with, not to mention all the other household chores that need to be done.
I really don't know what to do. On top of everything, my wife has a drinking problem and she has, in my opinion a severe personality disorder, she will frequently switch moods and they are severe severe moods, i am always walking on egg shells, she drinks AT LEAST 5 x 500 ml cans of beer every night. I feel as though the best course of action would be for me to seek sole custody until my wife gets the drinking and emotional help she needs.
My biggest problem, due to all the drinking and other circumstances beyond our control, we are severely in debt. My wife will never agree to see a mediator to give up custody and I cannot afford a lawyer. I live in quebec, I make too much money for legal aid, and I contacted a lawyer the other day, she wants a $500.00 deposit and $175/hour, I simply cannot afford that.

I am so close to the end of my rope but i will hang on for my son, I just don't know what to do without being able to afford a lawyer,

I feel so alone and scared,
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