The house is my partners. I'm not on title and I know I have no claim the property.
I'm wondering about my options and possible next steps.
We've been living together for almost 9 years. I have 3 kids, two children with him.
I want to leave with my kids from this/his house in Mississauga to Burlington where I can afford a home and have all my kids together with me.
My partner is generally not physically abusive. He has put his hands on me years in the past - it was minor pushing and shoving and once in a struggle as he tried to take my car keys he gabbed my arm hard enough to leave a bruise - his hand print - on my forearm. His form of aggression is normally verbal abuse e.g. I'm a F--king B--ch and the most useless person on the planet and contribute nothing to the family - although I buy the groceries, do the cleaning (that does get done), pay all the utilities, do the majority of the cooking and we share the other caregiving efforts for the kids.
The police have come to our house on two occassions. Once I called them and once my oldest child (from another relationship) called them. She lives with my parents now because she and partner are like gas and a match.
He has threatened to lock me out in the past and has locked me and the kids out of the house last September. He has the only key to the door. I sent the kids to my parents and paid a locksmith to let me in the house.
There was another "incident" this weekend because I failed to hear the phone ringing and didn't answer his calls. His car broke down about 1km from the house and he needed a ride/tow. He's told me to "get the F--k out of his house followed by the verbal abuse desribed above. I'm worried he'll lock me out again.
What recourse do I have? Keep in mind, he hasn't locked me out this time...at least not yet. If he does I can find a place to stay with the kids until I buy a house. I work from home and the corporate resources like my laptop, docking station and monitor are in the house. I can't work without them if he locks us out.
Not looking for guarantees, but wonder how a Judge could / might view my actions if my partner made a fuss over move from Peel to Halton. Fortunately I have a job that will let me me cover my necessary costs with a VERY small buffer on monthly basis, so even if he doesn't pay support right away I won't be destitute.
I need to move, but I'm scared of the potential fall out. There won't be a lot of money or savings left to manage a lengthy or even a short legal battle.
I'm wondering about my options and possible next steps.
We've been living together for almost 9 years. I have 3 kids, two children with him.
I want to leave with my kids from this/his house in Mississauga to Burlington where I can afford a home and have all my kids together with me.
My partner is generally not physically abusive. He has put his hands on me years in the past - it was minor pushing and shoving and once in a struggle as he tried to take my car keys he gabbed my arm hard enough to leave a bruise - his hand print - on my forearm. His form of aggression is normally verbal abuse e.g. I'm a F--king B--ch and the most useless person on the planet and contribute nothing to the family - although I buy the groceries, do the cleaning (that does get done), pay all the utilities, do the majority of the cooking and we share the other caregiving efforts for the kids.
The police have come to our house on two occassions. Once I called them and once my oldest child (from another relationship) called them. She lives with my parents now because she and partner are like gas and a match.
He has threatened to lock me out in the past and has locked me and the kids out of the house last September. He has the only key to the door. I sent the kids to my parents and paid a locksmith to let me in the house.
There was another "incident" this weekend because I failed to hear the phone ringing and didn't answer his calls. His car broke down about 1km from the house and he needed a ride/tow. He's told me to "get the F--k out of his house followed by the verbal abuse desribed above. I'm worried he'll lock me out again.
What recourse do I have? Keep in mind, he hasn't locked me out this time...at least not yet. If he does I can find a place to stay with the kids until I buy a house. I work from home and the corporate resources like my laptop, docking station and monitor are in the house. I can't work without them if he locks us out.
Not looking for guarantees, but wonder how a Judge could / might view my actions if my partner made a fuss over move from Peel to Halton. Fortunately I have a job that will let me me cover my necessary costs with a VERY small buffer on monthly basis, so even if he doesn't pay support right away I won't be destitute.
I need to move, but I'm scared of the potential fall out. There won't be a lot of money or savings left to manage a lengthy or even a short legal battle.
Comment