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Old 10-27-2009, 12:25 AM
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Geez....that's terrible!!!

I've never personally been through something like this, but I am very close to people who were victims like you, and like your children.

What is most important is that you try not to blame yourself for what has happened. Sexual predators can be very creative and manipulative... they have to be! They spend YEARS mastering how to hide their deviancy... and how to mentally overpower their victims.

You should definitely seek some counselling to help you through this.... so that you can help yourself, AND be there for your children.. They NEED you DESPERATELY right now.

It is also important for you to try and remain as calm as possible for your lil' bun in the oven.
Try to remember to eat well, and rest, and take care of yourself.

I wouldn't worry too much about him hurting his biological children.... you will have to enforce supervised access, (if any at all). Personally, I'd never allow him anywhere near them.... but that's just me.

If he isn't left alone with them, he can't hurt them.

Remember, child molesters cannot be treated and cannot be healed.... it is an uncontrollable compulsion. They are very dangerous people. Do some research.

Don't ever leave him alone with them again!

I feel terrible for your children

Good Luck