I posted the beginnings of my story last year and got a few helpful posts in reply. The sad thing is that the most common reply was "what's the rest of the story, what are you not telling us?". i would think that for the most part it's best to be honest and as open as possible on these posts if you want a helpful answer. There is no point in giving false information and expecting an reply that will be helpful.
So here is my update.
History
Met a girl, dated, got married. Her parents wanted nothing to do with me as I'm much older and previously divorced. Her dad even went so far as to hire a PI to have me investigated.
Year 2, wife has affair. I found out. She said it was over, I forgave ( wise? ) and we stayed together. 2 months later we are expecting.
This is our one and only child. I'm super happy.
9 months after the baby is born, she decides that she needs time and space and moves back to her parents, about an hour away, and takes our daughter.
I stay in the house and beg for her to come home. I drive the hour 1 or 2 times a week to see my little girl.
3 months later I come home to find the house has been cleaned out. She came and took every thing.
She has a lawyer. at the same time we are going to counseling. She tells me in mid-december that "there is still hope" Next week I get sent back to court. 9 days till the end of Dec a Judge evicts me from our home so she can move back in. This is over Christmas and New Years and I had volunteered to move out for the end of Jan! So Jan first comes and I'm not quite out, I found a place to live, and with friends and family I'm packing up the last things. She shows up and says "you can't be here" so she calls the police. 2 police cars show up and start questioning me..they finally ask me when I got the court order...that got some wide eyed looks...they told me to go ahead and finish up. She sat in her car and waited...so guess when she moved back in...yup, the end of January....
Next comes the big nail in the coffin. It seems there was another court date set for late January. My lawyer "forgot" to tell me. So my lawyer showed up but I was blissfully unaware. The judge must have decided I was a deadbeat dad and gave her everything, My little girl, our house, all the contents, inflated child care, a live in nanny!!!, and...to top it all off, I get to pay 20,000 just for that privilege as he awarded her costs as well.
So the latest...She has now moved to Toronto, taken my daughter, and I think she just got remarried last weekend as well. She has not let me have my daughter except when she want's to let me. I have a court date for next week..sadly...not holding out much hope.
So really, I guess I'm looking for any thoughts or words of advice.
Ask your questions cuz I have heard them all by now.
OhSoLost
So here is my update.
History
Met a girl, dated, got married. Her parents wanted nothing to do with me as I'm much older and previously divorced. Her dad even went so far as to hire a PI to have me investigated.
Year 2, wife has affair. I found out. She said it was over, I forgave ( wise? ) and we stayed together. 2 months later we are expecting.
This is our one and only child. I'm super happy.
9 months after the baby is born, she decides that she needs time and space and moves back to her parents, about an hour away, and takes our daughter.
I stay in the house and beg for her to come home. I drive the hour 1 or 2 times a week to see my little girl.
3 months later I come home to find the house has been cleaned out. She came and took every thing.
She has a lawyer. at the same time we are going to counseling. She tells me in mid-december that "there is still hope" Next week I get sent back to court. 9 days till the end of Dec a Judge evicts me from our home so she can move back in. This is over Christmas and New Years and I had volunteered to move out for the end of Jan! So Jan first comes and I'm not quite out, I found a place to live, and with friends and family I'm packing up the last things. She shows up and says "you can't be here" so she calls the police. 2 police cars show up and start questioning me..they finally ask me when I got the court order...that got some wide eyed looks...they told me to go ahead and finish up. She sat in her car and waited...so guess when she moved back in...yup, the end of January....
Next comes the big nail in the coffin. It seems there was another court date set for late January. My lawyer "forgot" to tell me. So my lawyer showed up but I was blissfully unaware. The judge must have decided I was a deadbeat dad and gave her everything, My little girl, our house, all the contents, inflated child care, a live in nanny!!!, and...to top it all off, I get to pay 20,000 just for that privilege as he awarded her costs as well.
So the latest...She has now moved to Toronto, taken my daughter, and I think she just got remarried last weekend as well. She has not let me have my daughter except when she want's to let me. I have a court date for next week..sadly...not holding out much hope.
So really, I guess I'm looking for any thoughts or words of advice.
Ask your questions cuz I have heard them all by now.
OhSoLost
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