Hi, I am new here and new to all this divorce/separation stuff.
Last Nov. my husband of 20 years said I treated him like crap and has essentially ended the marriage.
I have tried talking to him, to no avail.
He has stopped paying any bills and has dumped everything on me to pay, i am struggling to make ends meet.
We are still in the same house together, which is incredibly stressful, but I can't afford to leave and have nowhere to go with a 17 y/o daughter and 100lb dog. (the dog is hers).
I do work full time and do freelance work in my off hours to make extra $$$, he does not work. (long story) He sits in the house all day running up the bills and making a mess that I have to clean up cause he says he "doesn't work for me anymore".
We had an internet biz together, he changed all the passwords and then deleted the websites... saying the biz was his.
He changed all my email passwords. He blocked my computer from the wireless network, so I couldn't go online, he has told me he is selling my car (and I am so useless that I can't even get my own) the car is in his name.
I saw a lawyer who told me everything but the marital home is his...because he bought everything with $$$ he got from an insurance settlement. I am entitled to nothing.
We have a cottage together...My name is on the deed, as is his. I get none of it. This week he brought all of my things from the cottage, home. Apparently, I only own toiletries and small appliances.
I am rambling. The long and the short of it is... I have no idea what to do.
I know I need to hire a lawyer, but i don't have the $2000 retainer (or anyone to borrow from) and I can't justify the cost if I don't come out with anything. I am so very confused.
I have no family to help me and I am feeling very alone and scared.
What really bothers me is after 20 years of marriage, it all comes down to money...it's very pathetic....
Any advise would be most appreciated
Thank you
Boxer.
Last Nov. my husband of 20 years said I treated him like crap and has essentially ended the marriage.
I have tried talking to him, to no avail.
He has stopped paying any bills and has dumped everything on me to pay, i am struggling to make ends meet.
We are still in the same house together, which is incredibly stressful, but I can't afford to leave and have nowhere to go with a 17 y/o daughter and 100lb dog. (the dog is hers).
I do work full time and do freelance work in my off hours to make extra $$$, he does not work. (long story) He sits in the house all day running up the bills and making a mess that I have to clean up cause he says he "doesn't work for me anymore".
We had an internet biz together, he changed all the passwords and then deleted the websites... saying the biz was his.
He changed all my email passwords. He blocked my computer from the wireless network, so I couldn't go online, he has told me he is selling my car (and I am so useless that I can't even get my own) the car is in his name.
I saw a lawyer who told me everything but the marital home is his...because he bought everything with $$$ he got from an insurance settlement. I am entitled to nothing.
We have a cottage together...My name is on the deed, as is his. I get none of it. This week he brought all of my things from the cottage, home. Apparently, I only own toiletries and small appliances.
I am rambling. The long and the short of it is... I have no idea what to do.
I know I need to hire a lawyer, but i don't have the $2000 retainer (or anyone to borrow from) and I can't justify the cost if I don't come out with anything. I am so very confused.
I have no family to help me and I am feeling very alone and scared.
What really bothers me is after 20 years of marriage, it all comes down to money...it's very pathetic....
Any advise would be most appreciated
Thank you
Boxer.
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