Just have a quick question but will give a little background information first. We were living together for 8 years and have 2 children. Separated September 2008 but remained living in the house as work needed to be done prior to selling. We both own the home and both names are on the mortgage. On Mother's Day he was arrested for domestic assault and removed from the home and can't return due to bail restrictions. Question is does he still owe me to pay for the expenses of the home (i.e. mortgage and household bills) as well as child support and a portion of the extraordinary costs such as day care. He is only giving me just over half of what he used to when he was living in the house and he is not paying anything else towards the care of his children or for their day care other than this amount. I have retained a lawyer and we are in the process of doing financial statements but wanted to get an answer about this issue.
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Hope this helps .... as I can't comment on the side of domestic violence, but would believe that since it was his fault that he cannot return he is still responsible.
When I moved out - it took 2 years before the house was sold. Up until that time I was paying the mortgage, when the house sold, I paid Child Support as per guidlines (of note Mortgage was higher than CS). house was in my name and bought before marriage.
I was told at a Case Conference by a Justice that in affect what I should have paid was half the mortgage, she was to pay half the mortgage and I was to pay CS in full as well. (always plus Extraordinary expenses).
So in this realm - I should have paid
Full Child Support plus Half of a mortgage on a place I did not live at.
Living Expenses are the responsibility of whom lives there - I am doubtful that he will have to pay half of those.
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If he is not entitled to live in the house due to bail restriction, he does not have to pay, hopefully the utilities are in both your name as he can stop paying for this as well just like I did. You must have put a complaint thru the police for that, excuse me if I sound a little rude but a complaint was made for rape 3 days before she was to leave the house. She is still in the house but she was reprimanded by the family law judge and in criminal court she will have to face the music for false allegation. I am not saying that your allegation are false but I doubt anyone that makes them. Actually he can ask you for the money is is putting towards the mortgage. What you want to do is have an interim order of child support, do not pay attention to the small thing you have to get the important taken care of and that is your children.
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I beg to differ from prior opinion. If you are living in the home then you must assume all expenses related to the home. He is out therefore no responsibilty, you are not required to stay there if you do not wish or can not afford, sorry that is a harsh way of stating it. You would be entitled to the increase in value of the home from the date he was out since you are paying on your own. Fat chance in today's economy.
He must/should pay child support only as per guidelines, regardless if you have an order yet. Once you hit court spousal support may also be coming your way, but no one should voluntarilly start paying that until ordered.
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To Grey Shadow, you state that since it is his fault, domestic violence is a big problem but there is in Canada due process prior to one being deemed guilty. Therefore he may not be at fault at all, please do not read this to mean domestic violence is not a serious issue but rather at times a weapon used to gain an advantage, hopefull in very rare circumstances.
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Originally posted by today View PostI beg to differ from prior opinion. If you are living in the home then you must assume all expenses related to the home.
Originally posted by today View PostHe is out therefore no responsibility, you are not required to stay there if you do not wish or can not afford, sorry that is a harsh way of stating it.
Originally posted by today View PostYou would be entitled to the increase in value of the home from the date he was out since you are paying on your own. Fat chance in today's economy.
Originally posted by today View PostHe must/should pay child support only as per guidelines, regardless if you have an order yet. Once you hit court spousal support may also be coming your way, but no one should voluntarily start paying that until ordered.
Assault is a criminal offence and is not right. However the best way to deal with these issues is to keep them separate. He will be punished for his assault if found guilty. This should not have anything to do with dissolving your relationship equitably.Last edited by billm; 07-08-2009, 10:55 PM.
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With all due respect Blim, I am speaking only from my own personal experience it was determined in court that I did not have to pay half of anything regarding the home if my ex wished to continue living there, I did however on advice from lawyer have an immeadiate appraisal done to ensure exactly what I described in terms of an increase in value, again Blim you are correct another option considered was to allow her to become a tenant, we ened up allowing her to remain in the home with her paying virtually all expenses including mortgage, she was however given the choice to move out and me moving back in with the same scenerio reversed, with me to cover all expenses including mortgage, considering the number of times we were in front of a jdge seemed to be a very well accepted scenerio by the courts, again in my case, perhaps an exception I really can only speak from my own experience in a very similar scenerio. Another piece of advice that "seems" widely accpeted is to never ever pay spousal support unless odered. We do have a moral responsibilty to always care for our children in every way including financially.
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Since there has been no further activity on this post I would like to add that of course when two persons own a property it would normally be irrelavant if both live there or not , they must share the expense of a mortgage. Family law as we all know if a different world. I have seen a family court judge strike down and change the restrictions of a person charged but not yet convicted of DV (criminla court) to allow the person to attend to the home to pick up the children, this when the criminal court had decided that it may be unsafe for the accused to come within 300 metres by way of restraining order. They are two very different subject/matters yet somehow get intertwined at times, also sometimes a judge may feel he can see through an obvious false accustation that has not seen it's day in court which takes rouglhy one year to get to trial.
Following this logic the accused has not voluntarilly left he home, he has been forced out, yet some insist he continue to pay towards the mortgage, chld support, possibly spousal support and also find an alternate place to live.
Hmmmm go figure. How would this be possibe finacially speaking?
In my case market value of the the so called rent would of exceeded the cost of simply paying the mortgage in full therefore easier to just pay the mortgage rather than so called market value "rent" if this makes any sense.
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