Toddler son recently turned 2. I can tell he's trying to figure out his world and the routine of going back and forth between his mom and I for parenting time.
He is doing well at pick ups and drop offs at his mom's house. He's excited to see me and comfortably leaves mom after a kiss and hug from her. On return he is happy to see her and I get a kiss, a hug and a happy bye bye Daddy from him.
His verbal skills have really come along in the last few weeks and he has started asking to "go Mommy's house" in the late afternoons. I'm struggling to explain it in terms he will understand, especially when he is going to be with me overnight and won't see mommy until the next day.
Currently I have S2 in my care one weekday 9-5, one weekend is Sunday morning to Monday morning and the next weekend Saturday morning to Monday morning. This has been the routine for several months.
My mom (grandma) has encouraged me to get down to his eye level and calmly and cheerfully explain in age appropriate terms that he will see mommy soon but for now we will be having supper at my house, he will have his bath after dinner and sleep in his crib at Daddy's house and that when he wakes up in the morning, we will have breakfast and then he will go to Mommy's house.
I had to have this talk with him several times this evening as he was getting more insistent on "go Mommy's house". In the end, he ate his dinner fine, enjoyed his bath and went to bed without a fuss
I don't know how much of his asking is that he is missing his mommy or if it is partly because he is confused by the different amounts of time he spends with me. He doesn't know the days of the week or the difference between one overnight or two but I want to reassure him and keep him feeling secure.
Would appreciate any suggestions on how to handle his requests for his mommy and how I can help him understand the concept of tomorrow.
Thanks for any advice on how to reassure S2 and keep it age appropriate.
He is doing well at pick ups and drop offs at his mom's house. He's excited to see me and comfortably leaves mom after a kiss and hug from her. On return he is happy to see her and I get a kiss, a hug and a happy bye bye Daddy from him.
His verbal skills have really come along in the last few weeks and he has started asking to "go Mommy's house" in the late afternoons. I'm struggling to explain it in terms he will understand, especially when he is going to be with me overnight and won't see mommy until the next day.
Currently I have S2 in my care one weekday 9-5, one weekend is Sunday morning to Monday morning and the next weekend Saturday morning to Monday morning. This has been the routine for several months.
My mom (grandma) has encouraged me to get down to his eye level and calmly and cheerfully explain in age appropriate terms that he will see mommy soon but for now we will be having supper at my house, he will have his bath after dinner and sleep in his crib at Daddy's house and that when he wakes up in the morning, we will have breakfast and then he will go to Mommy's house.
I had to have this talk with him several times this evening as he was getting more insistent on "go Mommy's house". In the end, he ate his dinner fine, enjoyed his bath and went to bed without a fuss
I don't know how much of his asking is that he is missing his mommy or if it is partly because he is confused by the different amounts of time he spends with me. He doesn't know the days of the week or the difference between one overnight or two but I want to reassure him and keep him feeling secure.
Would appreciate any suggestions on how to handle his requests for his mommy and how I can help him understand the concept of tomorrow.
Thanks for any advice on how to reassure S2 and keep it age appropriate.
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