Hi all,
Quick background:
I have a baby who is nearing five months old. The "donor" as I call him, or the "father", skipped out on us when the baby was three weeks old. He immediately found a new girlfriend, whom is now living common-law with him and has been for a few months. He hasn't paid a dime in support, and refuses to. He is claiming he isn't the father (he IS) and hasn't returned any of my calls. I have heard he is trying to have a baby with her, as he wants his son. (incidentally, the baby he helped create is a boy).
I live in geared to income housing and they insist I receive support from him, as it is an income. I tried to explain this to him before the baby was born, to prepare him, but he flipped and decided he'd rather quit his job than pay me support. He said back then, that he would rather pay for diapers and food for the baby, than support. We did not live together, were in a relationship, then he ended it when I was just weeks from delivery. (he hasn't paid for diapers, food nor clothers as of yet).
I didn't want to live with him as Ï have two other children from a previous relationship, and I didn't want them involved with this man, with all of us living together, as their own father wasn't a proper role model, and isn't in their lives much either. I felt it wasn't right to put them in that situation.
I am also in University to finish my degree, and I can't live with anyone, and really don't care to, as it would interfere with my obtaining OSAP. I tried to explain this to this guy, and he just wouldn't listen.
So now I have my case worker (I am unfortunately on assistance for now) getting the FRO involved and I am waiting to hear if they have served him as of yet.
I have a court date tentatively set for early December.
What happens if he says, once we are in court, that he is not the father? I am in agreement for a paternity test, as it WILL show the jerk is indeed the father. What happens if he says he doesn't have the money to pay for the test? Will this lengthen the court proceedings, and by how much? And does anyone know why on earth Ï won't receive back support from him? THis has taken far too long already, and I just Know that he will try and spread it out longer. Also, Ï was told that they go back three years for tax returns, and if they do, they'll see that he made over 70,000 the earlier two years, but this past year he mysteriously has been off a lot, on sick leave, been laid off, etc. Will this affect the final decision on how much he'll have to pay me?
I also do not want him to have unsupervised visits (I truly don't want him to see my baby at all!!!!! ). How can Ï go about this?
I appreciate some input here,
Frustrated,
Lacey
Quick background:
I have a baby who is nearing five months old. The "donor" as I call him, or the "father", skipped out on us when the baby was three weeks old. He immediately found a new girlfriend, whom is now living common-law with him and has been for a few months. He hasn't paid a dime in support, and refuses to. He is claiming he isn't the father (he IS) and hasn't returned any of my calls. I have heard he is trying to have a baby with her, as he wants his son. (incidentally, the baby he helped create is a boy).
I live in geared to income housing and they insist I receive support from him, as it is an income. I tried to explain this to him before the baby was born, to prepare him, but he flipped and decided he'd rather quit his job than pay me support. He said back then, that he would rather pay for diapers and food for the baby, than support. We did not live together, were in a relationship, then he ended it when I was just weeks from delivery. (he hasn't paid for diapers, food nor clothers as of yet).
I didn't want to live with him as Ï have two other children from a previous relationship, and I didn't want them involved with this man, with all of us living together, as their own father wasn't a proper role model, and isn't in their lives much either. I felt it wasn't right to put them in that situation.
I am also in University to finish my degree, and I can't live with anyone, and really don't care to, as it would interfere with my obtaining OSAP. I tried to explain this to this guy, and he just wouldn't listen.
So now I have my case worker (I am unfortunately on assistance for now) getting the FRO involved and I am waiting to hear if they have served him as of yet.
I have a court date tentatively set for early December.
What happens if he says, once we are in court, that he is not the father? I am in agreement for a paternity test, as it WILL show the jerk is indeed the father. What happens if he says he doesn't have the money to pay for the test? Will this lengthen the court proceedings, and by how much? And does anyone know why on earth Ï won't receive back support from him? THis has taken far too long already, and I just Know that he will try and spread it out longer. Also, Ï was told that they go back three years for tax returns, and if they do, they'll see that he made over 70,000 the earlier two years, but this past year he mysteriously has been off a lot, on sick leave, been laid off, etc. Will this affect the final decision on how much he'll have to pay me?
I also do not want him to have unsupervised visits (I truly don't want him to see my baby at all!!!!! ). How can Ï go about this?
I appreciate some input here,
Frustrated,
Lacey
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