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Forum: Parenting Issues 01-23-2022, 01:07 AM
Replies: 52
Views: 1,637
Posted By Janus
There is a saying: "You cannot use reason to...

There is a saying:

"You cannot use reason to change the mind of somebody who did not use reason to arrive at his position in the first place"

Antivaxxers come from a place of little to no...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-21-2022, 08:32 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 321
Posted By Janus
You have a small, but fundamental...

You have a small, but fundamental misunderstanding. The money that you give as spousal support is not your money, it is your ex's money.

Imagine if your ex decided to buy your kid a car, and...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-18-2022, 07:56 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 321
Posted By Janus
I think what he is going to try to argue is that...

I think what he is going to try to argue is that because he is paying extra for the education, he needs to pay less than the calculated amount of spousal support. The ex already seems to be getting...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-18-2022, 07:53 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 321
Posted By Janus
Spousal support is your ex's money. You want to...

Spousal support is your ex's money. You want to use that money to pay for your child's education. In other words, your ex pays for the education, but you get the credit for spending the money.
...
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-16-2022, 11:36 PM
Replies: 28
Views: 527
Posted By Janus
He will pay child support. You use that money to...

He will pay child support. You use that money to pay for swimming lessons.

This has nothing to do with joint custody at all.



It sounds like you really want to foster a father-child bond...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-16-2022, 06:20 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 96
Posted By Janus
https://familycourt.cleo.on.ca/en/applicant/make-o...

https://familycourt.cleo.on.ca/en/applicant/make-or-accept-offer-settle

If the lawyer is rejecting receipt of your offer to settle, serve it on them.

If they tell you it is unacceptable because...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-16-2022, 06:14 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 150
Posted By Janus
People (and especially exes) demand things all...

People (and especially exes) demand things all the time. A demand creates no corresponding obligation.

I can demand that every on this forum send me a cheque for $100. That has about as much...
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-16-2022, 06:09 PM
Replies: 28
Views: 527
Posted By Janus
Yes, your ex is terrible. Are you going to...

Yes, your ex is terrible.

Are you going to send him an offer to settle?

I would recommend a severable offer to settle:

A) Joint custody, mother has final say in case of disagreement
B)...
Forum: Financial Issues 01-16-2022, 03:46 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,184
Posted By Janus
That is my understanding as well. That's why...

That is my understanding as well.

That's why it is probably a good plan to cancel any life insurance policies you may have if you are getting divorced. Use the money to pay lawyers instead.
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-16-2022, 03:44 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 203
Posted By Janus
Disagree, it is hard for a 14 year old to stand...

Disagree, it is hard for a 14 year old to stand up to a parent, especially a strong-willed parent.

That said, I don't think there is anything productive that the parent can do here, it is a tough...
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-16-2022, 03:41 AM
Replies: 28
Views: 527
Posted By Janus
Great, so he will get much less than 50%. Just...

Great, so he will get much less than 50%. Just keep offering time, and document when he declines.



Do you completely ignore your lawyer like this as well?

Feeding a child and putting a...
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-16-2022, 03:32 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 131
Posted By Janus
Generally the wording is "consent cannot be...

Generally the wording is "consent cannot be unreasonably withheld".

Concern over a global pandemic is not unreasonable, I think withholding consent here would be fine.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-16-2022, 03:30 AM
Replies: 34
Views: 764
Posted By Janus
After school is extracurricular time. I would...

After school is extracurricular time. I would be pissed off if the school was encroaching on that time.



Good luck in university, do you plan on checking up on your kid there as well? ...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-16-2022, 03:25 AM
Replies: 34
Views: 764
Posted By Janus
...and you thought ordering this guy around was...

...and you thought ordering this guy around was going to be an effective way to get what you wanted?
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-16-2022, 03:22 AM
Replies: 28
Views: 527
Posted By Janus
Are you independently wealthy? It sounds like...

Are you independently wealthy? It sounds like you are desperate for a major fight. This is going to cost you 100k if you keep going like this.

Why would you want supervised parenting time?
...
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-16-2022, 03:19 AM
Replies: 28
Views: 527
Posted By Janus
You have a really strong case, there is no need...

You have a really strong case, there is no need to say ridiculous things like that. Why the hell does he have to bring water or a toy in order to be capable of looking after a child?

Your...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-15-2022, 12:23 AM
Replies: 34
Views: 764
Posted By Janus
So, to be clear, when your son is with you he...

So, to be clear, when your son is with you he completes all his homework and goes to bed early, is that correct?

Then, when he goes to his father, all those wonderful work habits just disappear.
...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-15-2022, 12:18 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 298
Posted By Janus
The easy answer is to not respond much at all. ...

The easy answer is to not respond much at all. We haven't said it recently on this forum but the BIFF principle is a good one. Messages should be:

Brief
Informative
Factual
Friendly

As a...
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-15-2022, 12:04 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 145
Posted By Janus
Kids are living with the father so the mother...

Kids are living with the father so the mother will have to pay child support. If CS simply covered the costs of having children, then bribing them with money would be a lousy idea. Unfortunately,...
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-13-2022, 02:04 PM
Replies: 52
Views: 1,637
Posted By Janus
It is funny when antivaxxers post data that shows...

It is funny when antivaxxers post data that shows that vaccines work though, thinking that they are proving their point.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-13-2022, 11:36 AM
Replies: 34
Views: 764
Posted By Janus
If there were a requirement for children to have...

If there were a requirement for children to have their own room, then being poor would be a sufficient reason to lose custody.
Forum: Parenting Issues 01-13-2022, 11:34 AM
Replies: 52
Views: 1,637
Posted By Janus
Do you think that this data shows that...

Do you think that this data shows that vaccinations are not effective?
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-11-2022, 11:26 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 261
Posted By Janus
The legal system exists to force people to do...

The legal system exists to force people to do things that they do not want to do.

So, is she has zero intention of moving, then you need the legal system to force her to do it. Generally...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-11-2022, 11:17 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 135
Posted By Janus
I think it is difficult to appeal an interim...

I think it is difficult to appeal an interim order. You may require leave. Probability of success is very low, and it won't be cheap.

I think the better plan would be to wait until March, and...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-11-2022, 11:11 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 348
Posted By Janus
I think people underestimate how little the...

I think people underestimate how little the courts care about you or fairness if you don't have the kids.

If you have less than 40%, you should expect to lose almost every ruling.
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