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Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-23-2019, 09:08 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 236
Posted By Selfrepmom
So current schedule is EOW and 1 weeknight, all...

So current schedule is EOW and 1 weeknight, all supervised? Who does the supervising/are you comfortable with that person?

And now they are asking for three additional visits a week, all...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-22-2019, 08:50 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 236
Posted By Selfrepmom
What sort of evidence do you have of this drug...

What sort of evidence do you have of this drug use and violent behaviour? Ideally you have a police report(s) from when youíve had to call 911 for the abuse, and your ex has a criminal record of drug...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-20-2019, 08:44 AM
Replies: 40
Views: 790
Posted By Selfrepmom
Have you thought about slowly reaching out to the...

Have you thought about slowly reaching out to the stepmom to deal with her instead over some issues? Sometimes the exís new partner (as long as they have some serious time together, not like a 6...
Forum: Parenting Issues 06-18-2019, 04:22 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 167
Posted By Selfrepmom
Annoyances

This is more of a complaint than anything, but an annoying/anxiety causing issue nonetheless.

My daughter lives primarily with us, my partner’s daughter lives primarily with his ex. Our kids are...
Forum: Parenting Issues 06-13-2019, 12:53 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 433
Posted By Selfrepmom
I had paid babysitting gigs at 11/12 years old...

I had paid babysitting gigs at 11/12 years old and took the St Johns course. I got my first full time summer job as soon as I turned 13, and stopped doing the babysitting as much.

If it is a 9 &...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-30-2019, 06:40 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 429
Posted By Selfrepmom
Your boyfriend is stuck paying child support...

Your boyfriend is stuck paying child support until the child is 18 at the very least. Most likely longer, because most people go through some form of post secondary education these days.

Child...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-29-2019, 12:20 PM
Replies: 24
Views: 364
Posted By Selfrepmom
Thatís the catch. Make the order non-severable....

Thatís the catch. Make the order non-severable. Offer up joint ONLY if he consents to parent/child counselling. If he says no to counselling, you say forget joint. You yourself agree that the custody...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-29-2019, 11:54 AM
Replies: 24
Views: 364
Posted By Selfrepmom
So what actually started these proceedings? ...

So what actually started these proceedings?

You had a mutually agreed upon, signed-with-lawyers agreement that was filed with the court 5ish years ago that saw you with sole custody? And then ex...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-29-2019, 11:35 AM
Replies: 24
Views: 364
Posted By Selfrepmom
Iím so on the fence on this one. I donít think...

Iím so on the fence on this one. I donít think dad is asking for a ton of time though, just EOW with one night a week? I would say let him have the extra time with his kids, with a condition that...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-29-2019, 11:13 AM
Replies: 24
Views: 364
Posted By Selfrepmom
My neutral, third party, outsider-looking-in,...

My neutral, third party, outsider-looking-in, only hearing your side of the story opinion:

As I said in a previous thread- offer up joint custody. I donít know if you have a full grasp on what are...
Forum: General Chat 05-25-2019, 06:12 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 563
Posted By Selfrepmom
I got a good chuckle out of it lol (Iíve...

I got a good chuckle out of it lol


(Iíve never watched GOT either.... reading the books right now and donít want the shows to ruin it)
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-25-2019, 03:31 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 309
Posted By Selfrepmom
Unhappy None of the issues you have mentioned above are...

None of the issues you have mentioned above are joint custody issues. MAYBE the orthotic issue- but not really. They are all issues that you are going to face whether you have joint or solo.
...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-25-2019, 10:01 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 309
Posted By Selfrepmom
It may seem like a hard pill to swallow but...

It may seem like a hard pill to swallow but accepting joint custody status may be what you need to do to pacify your ex.

I offered up joint custody to my ex right away (same situation as you,...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-22-2019, 09:54 PM
Replies: 16
Views: 436
Posted By Selfrepmom
Why are you only imputing $20k annual income on...

Why are you only imputing $20k annual income on yourself? Do you have a valid reason to not be earning a minimum wage living at the very least?

Why does the other party say you should be making...
Forum: Parenting Issues 05-21-2019, 08:26 PM
Replies: 37
Views: 1,153
Posted By Selfrepmom
What I am deciphering from this: -You and ex...

What I am deciphering from this:

-You and ex have a status quo of joint custody and 50/50 access. This is good. How long has this schedule been in place/how long have you and ex been separated?
...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-16-2019, 09:04 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 183
Posted By Selfrepmom
Mine did the same thing pretty much. Told me I...

Mine did the same thing pretty much. Told me I wouldnít see a penny if I took him to court.

Get the application rolling ASAP. Iím a year and a half in and finally just got a temporary order for...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 07:57 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
There is a difference between arguing undue...

There is a difference between arguing undue hardship because you have to fly across the country every month and rent hotels etc just to see your kid, and claiming undue hardship because you pay...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 05:18 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
So do I. What I donít think OP realizes is that...

So do I. What I donít think OP realizes is that if her hubby brings an undue hardship claim to court- based on this outdated amount- he will most likely leave having to pay his first ex around $850 a...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 04:57 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
I feel like everyone is missing the main issue...

I feel like everyone is missing the main issue here....

This guy is making $96,000, and is only paying $375/month for his first child
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 04:09 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
This case is also based on the fact that the...

This case is also based on the fact that the husband was unemployed for a year, was already thousands of dollars in arrears AND had an imputed income of less than $30,000

Something tells me your...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 03:53 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
Wait..... somethings not adding up here. Why is...

Wait..... somethings not adding up here. Why is he only paying $375/month for child #1 when guideline for #2 & #3 is $1350? Has he never updated his support payments for child #1? Watch out for that...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 01:57 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
Does he rent a separate basement apartment from...

Does he rent a separate basement apartment from you in the home you live in? Probably not.

You share a home (and presumably a bedroom). If he is contributing $1 to the...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 01:47 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
Exactly. Show me the household budget of...

Exactly.

Show me the household budget of someone whose income dictates that their BASE CS payments for 2 kids is $1350 and I will 10000% be able to show you where you can make some cut backs on...
Forum: Financial Issues 05-15-2019, 11:17 AM
Replies: 30
Views: 748
Posted By Selfrepmom
I donít know..... I think you are on a slippery...

I donít know..... I think you are on a slippery slope here.

My situation is somewhat similar to yours- My current partner (together 4 years) has two children from two previous relationships and I...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-15-2019, 08:06 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 292
Posted By Selfrepmom
Even if that is true, that still gives him more...

Even if that is true, that still gives him more than 60 days to comply before I can get anything heard in front of a judge. Ah well, no point getting frustrated over things I canít change.

So...
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