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Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-16-2018, 09:50 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,475
Posted By Trix
Ongoing efforts to alienate (or a general...

Ongoing efforts to alienate (or a general complacency at best) continue to be my greatest concern.

Luckily, this counselor is one who had been recommended by the court and who we were guided to...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-16-2018, 09:15 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,475
Posted By Trix
Update, Our Settlement Conference was quick...

Update,

Our Settlement Conference was quick and productive (I hope).

A reunification counsellor has been secured and the process will begin at the end of this month.

The judge seized...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-14-2018, 08:24 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,475
Posted By Trix
This is probably the best advice I can give (and...

This is probably the best advice I can give (and it is just my advice), and it is also the hardest.

If there has been manipulation and it has been strong enough that your 12yo has not come home...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-14-2018, 08:17 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,475
Posted By Trix
I apologize for not having replied sooner. The...

I apologize for not having replied sooner. The truth is, I think you're somewhat ahead of where we are in that you have already gone to trial and have stellar recommendations from the OCL.

The...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-10-2018, 11:54 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 562
Posted By Trix
It's complicated. In short, she is seeking...

It's complicated.

In short, she is seeking retro-active child support for a period last year where we were trying to re-integrate. During that time she filed for sole custody and our daughters...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-10-2018, 10:51 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 562
Posted By Trix
Quality of time Vs. Quantity of time for CS

I am scouring CanLII etc. It is quite the process.

I am wondering, however, if anyone knows off-hand, of a legal precedent for considering the nature/quality of the time spent between parent and...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-01-2018, 09:21 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,592
Posted By Trix
Everything you here on this board is a mix of...

Everything you here on this board is a mix of legal, personal-legal, and personal opinion.

This most likely leans towards the latter of the three (though after years of being engaged in the...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-01-2018, 09:05 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,475
Posted By Trix
And I have, and it is disheartening. I have...

And I have, and it is disheartening.

I have received three responses from the five potentials I have reached out to. Only two are psychotherapists and the first is available in December. In...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-01-2018, 08:23 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,475
Posted By Trix
Uncharted (at least for me) Settlement conference adjourned

In short:

Separated 2009: joint custody and 50/50 access

Divorced Legally 2012: joint custody and 50/50 shared access (OP had sought sole custody)

September 2016: start of steady reduction...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-11-2018, 09:01 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 432
Posted By Trix
Thank you, I'm honestly not upset about it....

Thank you,

I'm honestly not upset about it. I was just surprised that there would but such blatant communication to the effect of "nope, not moving forward, just keep paying please"
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-11-2018, 07:19 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 432
Posted By Trix
Money SUCKS!!!!! (especially when you`re a sucker)

Money has always been low on my list of priorities, but.

In November, the court ordered an assessment in response to OP's application for sole custody. To avoid any wasted discussion about my...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-11-2018, 06:17 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 482
Posted By Trix
Ya, that`s absolutely true. I lost my temper...

Ya, that`s absolutely true. I lost my temper around my daughters and it was a scary thing for them. That was leading into the end of 2016.

In February 2017 our daughters were both coming home...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-10-2018, 11:16 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 482
Posted By Trix
Hearts and Minds Vs. Legal

The Reality:

D11 and D13 stopped coming home September 2017.

OCL report is complete and now filed with court. There are things I can do to make things easier for our daughters, with primary...
Forum: General Chat 04-03-2018, 06:45 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 3,149
Posted By Trix
Red face Is it too late to say I was actually intending on...

Is it too late to say I was actually intending on replying to a different post from a new poster who was talking about OP being a narcissist?

It is isn't it.
Forum: General Chat 04-03-2018, 06:06 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 3,149
Posted By Trix
How about: Why does it matter? BDP or not,...

How about: Why does it matter?

BDP or not, the service to your own emotional state necessarily affects the emotional wellbeing and general mental health of the children.

I think it is a...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 04-02-2018, 01:26 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 667
Posted By Trix
Oddly, she mentioned reintegration type...

Oddly, she mentioned reintegration type counselling very early on, followed by "I don't think it will be necessary".

She then went on to describe her recommendation for immediate reintegration,...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 04-01-2018, 11:03 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 667
Posted By Trix
She seemed to throw a fair amount of snade in...

She seemed to throw a fair amount of snade in both directions.

When she discussed her concerns around my rigidity, she leaned over and said "face it, you're a control freak".like and paused.
...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-30-2018, 10:01 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 667
Posted By Trix
OP walked out of OCL disclosure

Been a long hard go for everyone involved.

Pretty much completely estranged from D13 and D11.

OCL disclosure from clinician yesterday (no OCL lawyer involved).

I need to work on being...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-09-2018, 09:55 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,395
Posted By Trix
Thank you. It'll come

Thank you.

It'll come
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-09-2018, 09:28 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,395
Posted By Trix
I do appreciate the feedback. All I want is the...

I do appreciate the feedback. All I want is the opportunity to give our daughters some space to just do whatever. When you are suddenly cut off, that gets very difficult to do.

My affidavit was 17...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-09-2018, 08:53 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,395
Posted By Trix
Our days, when not too busy consisted of Connect...

Our days, when not too busy consisted of Connect Four, Lego, Uno, and hide and go seek which saw me having to replace hinges on a bedroom door because of some over enthusiastic escape tactics.

I...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-09-2018, 03:36 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,395
Posted By Trix
Whereas I have also heard similarly that even...

Whereas I have also heard similarly that even Successful litigation is taxing and destructive to children where the is high conflict.

My older daughter is clinically diagnosed as Severely Anxious...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-09-2018, 01:09 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,395
Posted By Trix
What an unfortunate response.

What an unfortunate response.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-09-2018, 10:53 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,395
Posted By Trix
Well I certainly don't know how this is going to...

Well I certainly don't know how this is going to go, but I just found out that the OCL has accepted the file and an assessor has been identified.

In response to OP's original motion for sole...
Forum: Parenting Issues 12-23-2017, 08:11 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,394
Posted By Trix
Mcdreamy I appreciate the concern. That is what...

Mcdreamy I appreciate the concern. That is what keeps flashing through my mind when I start to consider relenting and going over.

The truth is I believe my daughters know I am always there for...
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