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Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-30-2021, 01:11 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 95
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Hi Luna, The review has been taken down. ...

Hi Luna,

The review has been taken down.

Clearly this lawyer wasn't a good match for you. I would have fired him as well if he was questioning water bills or billing me for printing.

In...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-25-2021, 12:57 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 540
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
This! Once I figured out that nothing was...

This! Once I figured out that nothing was binding in settlement conferences and case conferences, I self-repped for them, only using a lawyer to figure out how the format and content of briefs...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-19-2021, 01:25 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 158
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
It depends. Who paid for your education? Did...

It depends. Who paid for your education? Did you give up a high paying job in China to move to Canada? Did you sacrifice your career for the marriage?Are you worse off or better off due to the...
Forum: Divorce Support 11-16-2021, 10:10 AM
Replies: 21
Views: 854
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Have you read the SSAG...

Have you read the SSAG (https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/spousal-epoux/ssag-ldfpae.html)? If you haven't, you should.

7.5 The Formula for Duration
As with amount, duration under the without...
Forum: Divorce Support 11-12-2021, 10:19 AM
Replies: 21
Views: 854
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Don't believe a word of what their lawyer says. ...

Don't believe a word of what their lawyer says. They are paid to screw you over.

Find your own lawyer, at least to get an idea of what a "fair" settlement would be and go from there. Once you...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-12-2021, 10:14 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 556
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
My understanding is that you should always make...

My understanding is that you should always make an offer to settle. Your STBX may accept 9 of 10 clauses and then any mediation only has to deal with the 1 clause.

I've heard others say that...
Forum: Financial Issues 10-21-2021, 09:31 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 874
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Don't believe anything from her lawyer. Get...

Don't believe anything from her lawyer.

Get your own lawyer to advise you on how much SS you may or may not be on the hook for. An experienced lawyer should be able to give you a ballpark figure...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-14-2021, 02:27 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 385
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Ooooohhh! Aren't you special. The judge...

Ooooohhh! Aren't you special. The judge actually read your briefs. Mine didn't even open them until the case conf started and then just did a quick scan.

As soon as I heard that nothing was...
Forum: Financial Issues 10-14-2021, 02:23 PM
Replies: 27
Views: 1,246
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Yes, I'm an "indentured servant" for an...

Yes, I'm an "indentured servant" for an indefinite period of time. I think my only hope is to retire with no savings or pension and hope to be released from bondage.
Forum: Financial Issues 10-14-2021, 12:47 PM
Replies: 27
Views: 1,246
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Funny, my ex refused to work and had a pattern of...

Funny, my ex refused to work and had a pattern of quitting jobs but I was told by everyone, including people on this forum, that all this meant was that I agreed to this (I didn't) and therefore was...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-14-2021, 12:42 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 385
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
This is my biggest take away from my experiences...

This is my biggest take away from my experiences in Family Court. What a colossal waste of time and resources case conferences were.
Forum: Financial Issues 09-28-2021, 10:01 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 582
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Sure. You can run away. My reading of the...

Sure. You can run away.

My reading of the OP's question was that the recipient leaves Canada and a Canadian judge therefore cancels the SS obligations of the payor.
Forum: Financial Issues 09-27-2021, 10:09 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 582
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Interesting, but I'd be surprised if this is the...

Interesting, but I'd be surprised if this is the case.

If SS is terminated because the recipient moves outside of Canada, what would happen if they moved back a year later?
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 09-14-2021, 10:21 AM
Replies: 38
Views: 1,234
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Your lawyer works for you. It looks like the...

Your lawyer works for you.

It looks like the two of you don't see eye to eye. It doesn't really matter if you are in the wrong or your lawyer is in the wrong. Or you're both right, or both...
Forum: Financial Issues 08-04-2021, 04:10 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 524
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
"Indefinite". Yeah, just about the most...

"Indefinite". Yeah, just about the most frightening word in the English language.

Yes, try and find a lawyer who has handled similar cases to advise you on your options and the likely outcome.
...
Forum: Introductions 07-13-2021, 04:59 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 723
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
You can post a thread in the Financial Issues...

You can post a thread in the Financial Issues forum. Key info is length of marriage, discrepancies in salary/career, one spouse making financial sacrifices for the marriage (staying home to take...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 07-13-2021, 04:56 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 244
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
How screwed you may be depends on a number of...

How screwed you may be depends on a number of things like how long you were married, discrepancies in your salaries and work, if one of you took several years off to be at home with the kids, etc.
...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 07-06-2021, 11:41 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 395
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
SS can be based on "compensatory" or...

SS can be based on "compensatory" or "non-compensatory" claims (https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/fl-lf/spousal-epoux/ug_a1-gu_a1/p3.html).

Compensatory is "based either on the recipient’s...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 07-05-2021, 04:34 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 395
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
It would depend on the basis of why and how much...

It would depend on the basis of why and how much SS was awarded. If you haven't already have a look at the SSAG ( https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/spousal-epoux/ssag-ldfpae.html ). Also, see if...
Forum: Divorce Support 07-02-2021, 12:59 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,354
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Nothing happens fast in family court. Sometimes...

Nothing happens fast in family court. Sometimes it takes years. Yes, see the lawyer, but I would recommend waiting a few months before doing anything if you can.

Take your time. Take care of...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-18-2021, 09:51 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 1,105
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Ah, the "Rule of 65" rears it's ugly head! ...

Ah, the "Rule of 65" rears it's ugly head! Indentured servitude in 2021.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-17-2021, 10:32 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 1,105
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
If you end up paying a large enough amount of CS...

If you end up paying a large enough amount of CS and SS you may still be screwed. (I went through this a year ago.)

These days, most mortgage lenders look at support payments as a debt, similar...
Forum: Financial Issues 06-04-2021, 09:52 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 706
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Is this for child support or spousal support? ...

Is this for child support or spousal support? I'm not familiar with the OP's history.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-02-2021, 10:55 AM
Replies: 2
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Views: 431
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
I always thought that it was financials at the...

I always thought that it was financials at the date of separation for equalization. If someone is asking for spousal support, present day financials may be relevant.

Assume that your ex's lawyer...
Forum: Divorce Support 05-31-2021, 11:31 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,303
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
In my case, we tried it twice. I believe that we...

In my case, we tried it twice. I believe that we both had good intentions but the counselling was unable to make on progress.
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