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Forum: Parenting Issues 11-11-2019, 09:43 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 266
Posted By HammerDad
Pleasantries with my ex range from cold to...

Pleasantries with my ex range from cold to robotic most times. IMO, ignore it and simply be yourself. I normally say hi, how are you, and then focus on my kid. I am not there to see my ex, I am there...
Forum: Parenting Issues 11-04-2019, 10:08 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
My daughter doesn't know I am looking, but she...

My daughter doesn't know I am looking, but she does know her mother checks her phone regularly (including conversations between D and I). I check for both safety reasons and simply for info. I can't...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-01-2019, 12:15 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 142
Posted By HammerDad
This is my recommendation. Simply correct it and...

This is my recommendation. Simply correct it and move on. The ex knows it bothers you, so they are likely to continue to act like this going forward. If you remove the fuel, there will likely be less...
Forum: Parenting Issues 11-01-2019, 10:15 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
Thanks. I try my best to stay supportive of my...

Thanks. I try my best to stay supportive of my daughter, while making sure I do not bad mouth my ex. Though, my ex doesn't show the same level of respect. In reading my daughters phone there are...
Forum: Financial Issues 10-30-2019, 01:21 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 194
Posted By HammerDad
There is essentially nothing you can do. While it...

There is essentially nothing you can do. While it shows his character that he is willing share this information with your neighbours, no law was broken.
Forum: General Chat 10-24-2019, 05:11 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 857
Posted By HammerDad
When I was in college I did a co-op at a law firm...

When I was in college I did a co-op at a law firm (was taking a legal diploma). One of the family lawyers was doing duty counsel at the local courthouse and asked if I wanted to tag along to watch,...
Forum: Parenting Issues 10-24-2019, 10:33 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
You need to remind her that it is not the child,...

You need to remind her that it is not the child, but the parent that is responsible for maintaining the parenting schedule. That until the parenting schedule is changed either by agreement or court...
Forum: Parenting Issues 10-23-2019, 02:52 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 274
Posted By HammerDad
Status quo is on the side of the activity. The...

Status quo is on the side of the activity. The child has participated in it for a long time and the other parent contributed.

C/S may cover the cost of the activity depending on the income of both...
Forum: Financial Issues 10-17-2019, 10:01 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 494
Posted By HammerDad
Contempt is generally reserved for egregious...

Contempt is generally reserved for egregious matters. Failing to disclose wouldn't fall into that category....yet. First step is a written request for the NoA. Second step is a letter from the lawyer...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-17-2019, 09:58 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 239
Posted By HammerDad
I believe the argument has been made in various...

I believe the argument has been made in various cases and summarily dismissed.
Forum: Divorce Support 10-16-2019, 10:20 AM
Replies: 67
Views: 10,059
Posted By HammerDad
IMO, you are doing fine. With the strides your...

IMO, you are doing fine. With the strides your husband has made in the years, I would say it has been working out.
Forum: Parenting Issues 10-16-2019, 10:17 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
Makes sense. I would say she has certain...

Makes sense. I would say she has certain narcissistic traits, which I assume egotists would likely share.

I am going to give it a bit. This was one instance where it was said out of impulse due to...
Forum: Parenting Issues 10-15-2019, 03:04 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
I do feel there is more to it. My ex puts a lot...

I do feel there is more to it. My ex puts a lot on the kid, stuff the kid even says she doesn't need (ie. "I am only 13, I'm not supposed to be involved in sort of stuff", in regards to my ex's...
Forum: Parenting Issues 10-15-2019, 01:11 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
I very much agree with that. This isn't a...

I very much agree with that. This isn't a revolving door to go to whomever's house she feels is going to be easiest.

I doubt it would be a smooth transition. First, my ex would fight it tooth and...
Forum: Parenting Issues 10-15-2019, 11:33 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
She is a bright, good kid. It is easy to feel the...

She is a bright, good kid. It is easy to feel the differences in homes just being around her. When I pick her up, for the first 5-10 minutes, I have to break through the barriers she seems to put up...
Forum: Divorce Support 10-15-2019, 10:56 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 354
Posted By HammerDad
Be clear with the ex that, unless it is an...

Be clear with the ex that, unless it is an emergency, all communication should be via email going forward (if not already). That you will respond to child related concerns as soon as reasonably...
Forum: Parenting Issues 10-15-2019, 10:45 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 916
Posted By HammerDad
So she said it....

I was driving my D14 home yesterday and during the ride her mother and her got into a spat (texting back and forth). My D14 just had a great weekend with me and my family for thanksgiving and was...
Forum: Financial Issues 10-09-2019, 01:30 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 454
Posted By HammerDad
Leaving them something shows you considered them,...

Leaving them something shows you considered them, and means they would have a real tough time fighting it (ie. leaving $1.00 per child). Just make sure that he doesn't put in reasoning that would be...
Forum: Financial Issues 10-09-2019, 12:09 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 454
Posted By HammerDad
Good point. Marriage invalidates prior wills....

Good point. Marriage invalidates prior wills. Becoming common law does not.
Forum: Financial Issues 10-09-2019, 12:07 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 454
Posted By HammerDad
A quick comment to the above, if you are planning...

A quick comment to the above, if you are planning to cut someone out (like a child) you have to be careful that you specify why, and the reason why cannot be unconscionable (ie. the child gets...
Forum: Financial Issues 10-08-2019, 10:31 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 454
Posted By HammerDad
Marriage invalidates all prior Wills. That is the...

Marriage invalidates all prior Wills. That is the law. If you marry and don't get a new will, you are deemed to have died intestate and your assets are distributed as set out in the legislation. So...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-08-2019, 10:24 AM
Replies: 20
Views: 771
Posted By HammerDad
My in-laws just took their kids to Hawaii for 10...

My in-laws just took their kids to Hawaii for 10 days, returning last week. Sometimes that is just when the schedule/budget/etc. works.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-07-2019, 05:58 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 709
Posted By HammerDad
I agree, it may be. But "may be" is speculation,...

I agree, it may be. But "may be" is speculation, and what the OP says is they have joint. In most instances where parents share joint custody it is "decisions must be made jointly. In the event of a...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 10-07-2019, 10:31 AM
Replies: 21
Views: 709
Posted By HammerDad
EOW is irrelevant. If they have joint custody,...

EOW is irrelevant. If they have joint custody, decisions like moving schools must be made jointly. It may be more convenient or whatever, but that is not the point. Convenience of a parent is not...
Forum: Financial Issues 09-27-2019, 10:14 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 574
Posted By HammerDad
One more point to my comment. If the ex...

One more point to my comment.

If the ex wants full c/s and accepts that they will pay for all travel costs for you to exercise your parenting time, that they cannot in the future claim they cannot...
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