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Forum: Financial Issues 05-03-2013, 11:21 PM
Replies: 54
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Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Just thought I would reappear and let anyone...

Just thought I would reappear and let anyone interested know how things are going. Certainly it has been an exhausting several weeks. Thanks to the help of a good friend I was able to connect with...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-25-2013, 06:00 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Sadly, I do know more than I ever wanted to about...

Sadly, I do know more than I ever wanted to about bankruptcy. We went through it together some years ago because of too many financial mistakes (Which is why I mentioned that this will be her 2nd...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-25-2013, 04:53 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
My first question to a trustee reveals a cause...

My first question to a trustee reveals a cause for concern; apparently the trustee is not required to inform anyone of the bankruptcy unless they are listed as a creditor. Even though my name is on...
Forum: Parenting Issues 03-25-2013, 01:41 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,248
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
There would be no change of school or anything...

There would be no change of school or anything major. I am only a few blocks from my STBX. It certainly wouldn't be a move to a less disciplinary household. Of course, that could change now that...
Forum: Parenting Issues 03-25-2013, 11:59 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,248
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
My son is a lot like me in that he seldom...

My son is a lot like me in that he seldom expresses what he is feeling or thinking. That's why it was such a surprise to hear he wanted to live with me. I'm fairly sure he isn't trying to use it as...
Forum: Parenting Issues 03-25-2013, 11:08 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,248
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Unexpected Child custody issue

I could use some advice in dealing with a totally unexpected issue. I had assumed that my 2 kids still with their mother would be staying with her. It turns out that my 12 year old son might want...
Forum: General Chat 03-25-2013, 10:56 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 1,337
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I have been told that my initial post was my way...

I have been told that my initial post was my way of desperately calling out for help (something I always had a hard time doing), and I think that is correct to a great extent. Subsequent posts are...
Forum: General Chat 03-25-2013, 10:33 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 1,337
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Yes, it did, and it meant a lot to me too. It...

Yes, it did, and it meant a lot to me too. It still brings a tear to my eye thinking about it now.

I should also add that although I have had a somewhat cool and distant relationship with my own...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-25-2013, 09:15 AM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
She has told me that it is a "personal" matter...

She has told me that it is a "personal" matter and does not involve me. Clearly she is not aware of the possibility I could be a creditor after the equalization process.



I believe it is now...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-25-2013, 08:15 AM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Quick question: should I ask my STBX for a copy...

Quick question: should I ask my STBX for a copy of the bankruptcy paperwork or the contact details for the trustee? Or should I leave that up to a lawyer?

Thanks in advance.
Forum: Financial Issues 03-25-2013, 07:16 AM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I was wondering about that, as I couldn't find...

I was wondering about that, as I couldn't find anything about changes. In any event, you are correct that it will be 14 years because this will be a second bankruptcy.



I will. Thanks for the...
Forum: General Chat 03-24-2013, 11:00 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 1,337
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I'm not a big fan of country music, but I must...

I'm not a big fan of country music, but I must admit that was a tear-jerker.

As an imperfect father who does his best for his kids, I can certainly understand the feelings expressed (in the song...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-24-2013, 11:40 AM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I have no intention of rolling over. I know that...

I have no intention of rolling over. I know that all her decisions from the time of separation on are "for the best interests of the kids" (ie: her), and she has no concern for what that means for...
Forum: Divorce Support 03-24-2013, 10:32 AM
Replies: 43
Views: 4,687
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I know what you mean with having problems...

I know what you mean with having problems sleeping; I was operating on around 2 hours "sleep" per day for the first 10 days after my separation.

I typically walk to and from work each day and...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-24-2013, 08:08 AM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I'm not feeling too smart right now; I married...

I'm not feeling too smart right now; I married her.



I realize I have little choice if I want to have any kind of meaningful life. I can already hear the whining and blaming about how my...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 09:46 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I left the joint account open as there were a...

I left the joint account open as there were a number of pre-authorized payments that came out of it and I did not wish to cause her unnecessary problems. I changed my payroll deposit and set up my...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 09:41 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I want it sold; ideally if it covers all costs...

I want it sold; ideally if it covers all costs associated with that, I'm happy. If there is anything leftover afterwards, I'm very happy.



Essentially, that is exactly what she is doing. ...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 09:17 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Not yet; it would probably have been done in the...

Not yet; it would probably have been done in the last 1 - 2 days. As we have not gone through the equalization process, it is possible that I could be a creditor but she probably never thought of...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 07:35 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I try to be realistic, even if I may not like...

I try to be realistic, even if I may not like what the reality is.

In regards to the financial matters, it would seem that she must have already filed the paperwork for bankruptcy. I still have...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 05:23 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Well, that was my theory too. I'm 45...

Well, that was my theory too.



I'm 45 and she is 39, but yes she is naive in many ways about financial matters. I did not want the home because I knew I could not afford it. It took her over...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 03:49 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I think she received shit advice here. Once the...

I think she received shit advice here. Once the house had been sold, all she would have left is her student loans (well, and the car). There are no other credit cards, etc. She wouldn't be able...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 03:31 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
That is perhaps the ONLY area where my ex is...

That is perhaps the ONLY area where my ex is being decent; she is not trying to keep me from the kids, which surprises me after the recent turn of events. Remaining in the home was simply not a...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 03:24 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
I have read quite a bit on bankruptcy, but didn't...

I have read quite a bit on bankruptcy, but didn't see much definitive in regards to equalization. But just found a couple news items form a few years ago that answered that question. :mad:

So...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 02:50 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
Something else just occurred to me; as we have do...

Something else just occurred to me; as we have do not have any separation agreement in place and have not done the equalization process I'm wondering how the bankruptcy will affect that? It was my...
Forum: Financial Issues 03-23-2013, 12:05 PM
Replies: 54
Views: 8,007
Posted By Dazed_and_confused
No other joint items. And the car and insurance...

No other joint items. And the car and insurance were in her name only. The day after she gave me the news I set up a new individual account and immediately had my payroll deposit info changed.
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