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Forum: Introductions 07-13-2021, 04:59 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 154
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
You can post a thread in the Financial Issues...

You can post a thread in the Financial Issues forum. Key info is length of marriage, discrepancies in salary/career, one spouse making financial sacrifices for the marriage (staying home to take...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 07-13-2021, 04:56 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 107
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
How screwed you may be depends on a number of...

How screwed you may be depends on a number of things like how long you were married, discrepancies in your salaries and work, if one of you took several years off to be at home with the kids, etc.
...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 07-06-2021, 11:41 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 226
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
SS can be based on "compensatory" or...

SS can be based on "compensatory" or "non-compensatory" claims (https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/fl-lf/spousal-epoux/ug_a1-gu_a1/p3.html).

Compensatory is "based either on the recipient’s...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 07-05-2021, 04:34 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 226
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
It would depend on the basis of why and how much...

It would depend on the basis of why and how much SS was awarded. If you haven't already have a look at the SSAG ( https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/spousal-epoux/ssag-ldfpae.html ). Also, see if...
Forum: Divorce Support 07-02-2021, 12:59 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 431
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Nothing happens fast in family court. Sometimes...

Nothing happens fast in family court. Sometimes it takes years. Yes, see the lawyer, but I would recommend waiting a few months before doing anything if you can.

Take your time. Take care of...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-18-2021, 09:51 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 781
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Ah, the "Rule of 65" rears it's ugly head! ...

Ah, the "Rule of 65" rears it's ugly head! Indentured servitude in 2021.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-17-2021, 10:32 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 781
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
If you end up paying a large enough amount of CS...

If you end up paying a large enough amount of CS and SS you may still be screwed. (I went through this a year ago.)

These days, most mortgage lenders look at support payments as a debt, similar...
Forum: Financial Issues 06-04-2021, 09:52 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 441
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Is this for child support or spousal support? ...

Is this for child support or spousal support? I'm not familiar with the OP's history.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 06-02-2021, 10:55 AM
Replies: 2
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Posted By ifonlyihadknown
I always thought that it was financials at the...

I always thought that it was financials at the date of separation for equalization. If someone is asking for spousal support, present day financials may be relevant.

Assume that your ex's lawyer...
Forum: Divorce Support 05-31-2021, 11:31 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 787
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
In my case, we tried it twice. I believe that we...

In my case, we tried it twice. I believe that we both had good intentions but the counselling was unable to make on progress.
Forum: Divorce Support 05-31-2021, 10:38 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 787
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Same story here. +1 for trying but if was a...

Same story here. +1 for trying but if was a waste of time in my case.
Forum: Political Issues 05-25-2021, 09:58 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 1,653
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Parents who withhold access to the other parent...

Parents who withhold access to the other parent are basically kidnapping the children.

I fail to see any moral difference between a parent not paying child support and another refusing to allow...
Forum: Political Issues 05-21-2021, 11:06 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 1,653
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Not paying child support is wrong and we punish...

Not paying child support is wrong and we punish and publicly shame people for it.

Withholding access to children is also wrong yet we ignore it and say, "whatever". (Except for the parent being...
Forum: Political Issues 05-19-2021, 11:57 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 1,653
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
I'd like to see the corresponding page with...

I'd like to see the corresponding page with pictures of people who refuse or limit access of the children to the other parent.
Forum: Financial Issues 01-31-2021, 12:50 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 1,391
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
350 Mag, Family court is the scam. Listen...

350 Mag,

Family court is the scam. Listen to rockscan since that is the point of view that family courts operate under. Janus also offers words of wisdom.

It's assumed that only your STBX...
Forum: Financial Issues 01-29-2021, 09:38 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 1,391
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
350 Mag, The system is rigged. Any good...

350 Mag,

The system is rigged.
Any good deed will be punished.
This line of argument will get you nothing.

On the other hand, have you heard of the "Rule of 65"? If you STBX's age plus the...
Forum: Financial Issues 01-28-2021, 12:04 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 1,391
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Ah, yes, the old "you agreed as a couple"...

Ah, yes, the old "you agreed as a couple" justification for being forced to pay for an ex-spouse who spent years slacking off and wants to continue to do so after the marriage ends.

If you ask you...
Forum: Financial Issues 01-04-2021, 05:00 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 611
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Forget about what "her lawyer" says. They are...

Forget about what "her lawyer" says. They are there to represent the ex. It's their job to be biased and unreasonable in the ex's favour.

You have to get your own legal advice to determine your...
Forum: Political Issues 10-14-2020, 12:22 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 907
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
As a man, I don't know of a single man, nor have...

As a man, I don't know of a single man, nor have I read anything credible about men wanting to return to the "glory days," whatever that was.

The backlash as I see it is that it seems to be open...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-13-2020, 06:57 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,632
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
My advice would be more to the settlement...

My advice would be more to the settlement conference brief. I think that may judges don't really look at it in advance or just skim it. You want it to be very brief and to the point, preferably in...
Forum: Financial Issues 01-06-2020, 07:28 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 2,254
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Since no one else has replied... Is there a...

Since no one else has replied...

Is there a reason why you can't work full time? If not, it seems reasonable to me to impute a full-time minimum wage salary.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-18-2019, 10:19 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,523
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
My understanding is that if you are in Ontario,...

My understanding is that if you are in Ontario, the matrimonial home is split 50/50 with your STBX even if it was brought into the marriage.


My guess, is that the any increase is also split...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-18-2019, 10:12 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,061
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Keep in mind that the longer you are married, the...

Keep in mind that the longer you are married, the more you may have to pay spousal support. IIRC, the rule of thumb is 6 months for every year of marriage.

Also keep in mind the 'Rule of 65'. At...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-07-2019, 01:51 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,617
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Janus, Thank you for the well written post...

Janus,

Thank you for the well written post about the realities of family court in Canada. I'll be saving it for my son in case he is ever foolish enough to get married.

And I don't mean this...
Forum: General Chat 11-30-2019, 01:13 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 2,181
Posted By ifonlyihadknown
Not that I'm an expert but I wouldn't share any...

Not that I'm an expert but I wouldn't share any personal information going forward. I don't see how it can help you.

You should separate any joint accounts, credit cards, or at least open your...
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