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Forum: Parenting Issues 07-11-2010, 11:45 AM
Replies: 50
Views: 5,729
Posted By bayleaf
GenXer, you did get blasted from one side of the...

GenXer, you did get blasted from one side of the argument. I agree that there is another side and I don't think you are wrong to ask questions about the home that the kids' dad wants them to stay at...
Forum: Political Issues 07-08-2010, 12:48 PM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
ZipZap, I agree that nothing much will change...

ZipZap, I agree that nothing much will change until more people begin to demand change.

Though some people working in the current system may not care about fairness and justice, all of them care...
Forum: Political Issues 05-28-2010, 10:42 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 3,258
Posted By bayleaf
Anything more recent than 1999 on custody awards...

Anything more recent than 1999 on custody awards by age, gender, marital status, or income?

Anybody keeping a list of cases in which the court addresses parental alienation? I know there are a...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-18-2010, 11:50 AM
Replies: 21
Views: 3,144
Posted By bayleaf
I agree completely. Once you've conceded she is...

I agree completely. Once you've conceded she is the primary caregiver, what is to stop her from seeking sole custody? You need an agreement on joint custody. Without that, do *not* allow her to...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-17-2010, 11:32 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 1,701
Posted By bayleaf
Since you are simply trying to seek enforcement...

Since you are simply trying to seek enforcement of an order made on a previous application, I would think that a motion would suffice. But I'm not sure; perhaps others know. You can always ask a...
Forum: Political Issues 05-17-2010, 02:02 PM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
Thanks for waving the yellow flag. The family...

Thanks for waving the yellow flag. The family law process is so adversarial and destructive that even talking about it can bring out the worst in us. It certainly gets me going. I'd prefer to...
Forum: Political Issues 05-17-2010, 10:48 AM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
I think that is good tactical advice if you're...

I think that is good tactical advice if you're willing to keep the kids in a home that is fraught with hostility, emotional warfare and potential violence. So the responsible father should just up...
Forum: Political Issues 05-17-2010, 12:57 AM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
Mess, I did that in my first message and again in...

Mess, I did that in my first message and again in my second.

Dadtotheend, I don't understand your response to #2. Re #1, yes I know women get sole custody far more often than men becuase they...
Forum: Political Issues 05-16-2010, 11:05 PM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
I'm not sure if the best defence is a good...

I'm not sure if the best defence is a good offence, but your words are certainly offensive. Please lay off the name-calling.

Your words: "She just up and refused to work so you caved in and...
Forum: Political Issues 05-16-2010, 10:15 PM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
You're right, the fact that her pockets were much...

You're right, the fact that her pockets were much deeper than mine had nothing to do with gender bias. It's just another significant defect of the family 'justice' system.

As for gender bias, I'm...
Forum: Political Issues 05-16-2010, 10:08 PM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
"So I state again, I am not commenting on his...

"So I state again, I am not commenting on his life, I am commenting on a few sentences he used to describe it."
You sound like a guy who likes to call a spade a spade -- and the above are weasel...
Forum: Political Issues 05-16-2010, 05:08 PM
Replies: 301
Views: 47,418
Posted By bayleaf
I don't mean want to stir this pot again, but I...

I don't mean want to stir this pot again, but I am feeling seriously pissed off by the comments above of two Senior Members (I guess that means you've been around a while). Talk about reaching harsh...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 04-01-2010, 01:09 PM
Replies: 27
Views: 3,047
Posted By bayleaf
Sorry if I misunderstood you, tugofwar. I'm...

Sorry if I misunderstood you, tugofwar. I'm glad to hear that he has started to have weekly visits with your child, even if it is a difficult time for the adults. Hopefully he will increase both...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 04-01-2010, 12:36 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 4,683
Posted By bayleaf
underdog, you must be feeling overwhelmed -- lots...

underdog, you must be feeling overwhelmed -- lots of issues, lots of advice. Most of which I agree with. Having been in much the same situation as you, some key points I would add are:

1. Avoid...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 04-01-2010, 11:42 AM
Replies: 27
Views: 3,047
Posted By bayleaf
I really don't like the title to this thread or...

I really don't like the title to this thread or the question posed. Children are not property, they are people, and the very last thing they need is their parents trying to 'win' the right to...
Forum: Parenting Issues 03-26-2010, 12:36 PM
Replies: 23
Views: 3,134
Posted By bayleaf
I agree. Pickup and dropoff times, with the kids...

I agree. Pickup and dropoff times, with the kids present, are not times to argue and escalate. You are damaging your kids by getting into it with him.

I used to do the same. But now when I pick...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-26-2010, 12:26 PM
Replies: 79
Views: 7,177
Posted By bayleaf
Hey confusedalso, I'm new to this forum also. ...

Hey confusedalso, I'm new to this forum also. But I think you are getting ignored here because this thread was started by jq55 and people are responding to his question/problem.

I think you...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-25-2010, 07:27 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 1,150
Posted By bayleaf
Using a Parenting Coach to reduce conflict

Hi.

I have a really unfortunate situation with the mother of my children. Cooperation is virtually non-existent. Communication is in writing only; it is invariably hostile and I am to blame for...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-25-2010, 04:10 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,420
Posted By bayleaf
Holy smokes, Nadia. I'm new to this forum so I...

Holy smokes, Nadia. I'm new to this forum so I went back and read some of your earlier posts. Your story is truly awful and reminds me why I quit practicing family law 20 years ago -- the...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-25-2010, 12:19 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,420
Posted By bayleaf
I'm not so sure, mostly because the battle for...

I'm not so sure, mostly because the battle for custody is itself a major cause of conflict. In my case, my ex and I were developing a very amicable relationship (e.g. shared birthday parties, I...
Forum: Common Law Issues 03-24-2010, 08:54 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 2,177
Posted By bayleaf
I think you should talk to that lawyer again. ...

I think you should talk to that lawyer again. You may well have a claim for unjust enrichment, which is based on the common law concept of constructive trust. This is judge-made law and you won't...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-23-2010, 09:35 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,420
Posted By bayleaf
Oh yuck, just reread that and it's way too...

Oh yuck, just reread that and it's way too preachy. Like I know what's best for everyone else. I don't. No doubt I'm still upset about my own situation.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-23-2010, 08:56 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,420
Posted By bayleaf
Glad to hear Rhonda that it's not about the...

Glad to hear Rhonda that it's not about the money. Custody decisions really have to focus on what is best for the kids -- both now and for the remainder of their childhoods. Sole custody in my...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-22-2010, 12:34 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,420
Posted By bayleaf
I see the situation differently. Why would you...

I see the situation differently. Why would you refuse 50/50 shared custody? Is it about the kids or about the money?

There's a real good reason why kids have two parents -- they need them...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 03-18-2010, 01:34 AM
Replies: 34
Views: 2,582
Posted By bayleaf
the rant was fine, and I share your frustrations....

the rant was fine, and I share your frustrations. I think the federal child support system is seriously messed up, for many reasons that I might talk about later. But a question about your...
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