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Forum: Divorce & Family Law 08-13-2014, 07:32 PM
Replies: 74
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Posted By rthombe
karma_fan, I like the way you bring the morality...

karma_fan, I like the way you bring the morality and stress into the argument. It's an aspect I tend to overlook when I get lost in the numbers. :)

There is no doubt that when you feel -- as I...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-25-2013, 02:42 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
I should add, there is a legitimate case for SS,...

I should add, there is a legitimate case for SS, of course. But as pointed out by others here, we shouldn't force CS to *become* a form of SS -- they are separate things, with separate...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-25-2013, 02:30 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
I think this really cuts to the chase. The only...

I think this really cuts to the chase. The only justification for Child Support in shared custody situations is to equalize standards of living. I think we all agree that it *is* harmful to the...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 09:36 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Cheers to that! Thanks for bringing it home. :)

Cheers to that! Thanks for bringing it home. :)
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 09:21 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
You kind of lost me here: What do you...

You kind of lost me here:



What do you mean with UP and DOWN? Support amounts? If I have a second marriage I should pay more support to the first? Not sure what you're saying.



I'm...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 09:11 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Can you clarify a bit? Agreed. ...

Can you clarify a bit?



Agreed.




I'm not clear on what you mean here. I truly *do* believe she is spending $1100 on the kids; she can afford to because her husband can pay for non-kid...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 08:57 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
That only works mathematically if the shared...

That only works mathematically if the shared costs are actually DOUBLE the non-shared costs. It's true and stands to reason that some factor should be added to factor in these extra costs; but it's...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 08:42 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
OK, I think my point was lost in the crowd. ...

OK, I think my point was lost in the crowd.

First and foremost, our new spouses' incomes are not relevant to the calculation of support, unless there is an application for Undue Hardship, which...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 08:31 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
[QUOTE=Tayken;124027] Sorry to say, if it was...

[QUOTE=Tayken;124027]
Sorry to say, if it was incorrect there would be thousands upon thousands of Applications before the court with your complaints. The simple fact of the matter there isn't...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 08:13 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Tayken, did my math elude you in my response to...

Tayken, did my math elude you in my response to this?

Trying to compare my $45,000 to her $36,000 is a logical error, unless spousal support is on the table. Which it isn't.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 08:10 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Sorry, my fault -- a misunderstanding due to poor...

Sorry, my fault -- a misunderstanding due to poor wording.

I have 2 other full-time kids; one with my new wife, one is her child from a previous relationship.

There's definitely an important...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 07:45 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
A good point, and I'm glad you brought it up. ...

A good point, and I'm glad you brought it up. It's important to separate the kid-related expenses from the non-kid-related expenses. Child support is only supposed to support the kid-related...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 07:17 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Disposable Income ... that's brilliant, and makes...

Disposable Income ... that's brilliant, and makes total sense!! I think if we did it this way, I wouldn't be in the trouble I'm in. The big problem for me is that my income implies much higher...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 06:55 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Yeah, this cuts to the real bones of the issue,...

Yeah, this cuts to the real bones of the issue, doesn't it!

It's possible I will get nowhere with this. I *do* feel strongly that the setoff method is mathematically and logically flawed, but...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 06:48 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
I think you missed the point again, Teyken. I...

I think you missed the point again, Teyken. I have no intention of "using" the courts just to get her to talk -- if I'm forced to go to court it will be with every intention of winning.



I...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 04:16 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
This is my fear. I'm worried about walking into...

This is my fear. I'm worried about walking into court, and after all my careful examples and formulas and arguments, the judge rips into me because I'm trying to be a deadbeat dad, without even...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 03:57 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Teyken -- re: costs incurred in fighting -- Hah! ...

Teyken -- re: costs incurred in fighting -- Hah! Yeah, no kidding. I talked to a lawyer about this, as my ex only works part-time and I wanted to have her salary imputed to a higher amount. But he...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 03:55 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
I love this forum!! This is exactly the kind of...

I love this forum!! This is exactly the kind of discussion I was hoping to get! :) I could never get lawyers (or my ex) to engage in a constructive back-and-forth like this! This is truly helping...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 03:10 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
I should add, that the costs associated with 9(b)...

I should add, that the costs associated with 9(b) could be offset with a multiplier. Canada doesn't tend to do this a ton, I think, but there are examples where it's been done. That way we both take...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-24-2013, 03:01 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
I disagree on several points. The setoff method...

I disagree on several points. The setoff method is *not* mandated by the Act, with regard to section 9(a) for Shared Custody. It's a fine point, but compare to section 8, with Split Custody -- it...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-23-2013, 05:11 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Unhappy Set-off method is unfair to higher earner?

I've been struggling with this calculation for some time now and I'm hoping to get some opinions on the fairness of the standard set-off method used when calculating child support.

I have a 50/50...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 01-23-2013, 02:02 PM
Replies: 74
Views: 8,172
Posted By rthombe
Set-off method is unfair to higher earner?

Hi there. I've been struggling with this concept for some time and would love to hear others' opinions on the matter.

I currently have an agreement in place with my ex that follows standard...
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