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Forum: Divorce & Family Law 05-31-2020, 10:40 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 228
Posted By UnderPressure
Exclamation Am I screwing up if I move out before agreement is signed?

Here is the situation:

Negotiating separation agreement. Told the kids. Both still in the matrimonial home. Brown owners both on the mortgage. We both want me out ASAP. Planned for today. Plan was...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 02-23-2020, 09:33 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 728
Posted By UnderPressure
I think it weakens your position needlessly to...

I think it weakens your position needlessly to claim self rep costs. Leave her to be the one being vindictive and financially motivated. Don’t say it, just focus on what is best for the kids, her...
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-23-2020, 07:24 AM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,665
Posted By UnderPressure
Thank you so much for this. It is a very powerful...

Thank you so much for this. It is a very powerful statement that we should all keep in mind. I am going to build a reminder into my calendar to read this first thing in the morning on each day I...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 02-22-2020, 11:27 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 269
Posted By UnderPressure
Because his salary is double hers. The only...

Because his salary is double hers. The only question is on duration.


Forget what the numbers are or how many digits. 20 year marriage? Let's guess at 50 years old - approaching retirement? It...
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-20-2020, 11:19 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 686
Posted By UnderPressure
I am planning to have the mediator introduce it...

I am planning to have the mediator introduce it instead of me do it. I'm hopeful that she can see it as a way to ensure we both have access to all of the information we need for the children in one...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 02-20-2020, 11:13 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 258
Posted By UnderPressure
Thank you so much, great content. First...

Thank you so much, great content.


First meeting with the mediator today. I didn't get into this level of detail but I did ask about specifying schedule and holidays out in detail like this to...
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-20-2020, 07:26 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 984
Posted By UnderPressure
Thank you so much! This is extremely valuable and...

Thank you so much! This is extremely valuable and helpful.

I have this prepared going into mediation (edited for my situation) and it will save me time and money, but most valuable is being able...
Forum: General Chat 02-20-2020, 07:03 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 876
Posted By UnderPressure
You are absolutely right and it is a pervasive...

You are absolutely right and it is a pervasive bias that we are indoctrinated with and it is constantly reinforced. The good news is that it is starting to change, at least in some areas like 50/50...
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-19-2020, 07:02 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 686
Posted By UnderPressure
Part of this is putting things in a walled garden...

Part of this is putting things in a walled garden so we both have the option to limit communication otherwise. I don't need that at this point but she may now or either of us later on. I am no fan...
Forum: Financial Issues 02-18-2020, 11:35 AM
Replies: 32
Views: 2,272
Posted By UnderPressure
Excellent this is just what I needed. Thank you!

Excellent this is just what I needed. Thank you!
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-18-2020, 12:46 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 686
Posted By UnderPressure
The price is insignificant to me. It handles...

The price is insignificant to me.

It handles a whole lot more than email including secure document storage (kid’s records) and calendaring that is simple and visual. It may be possible to work out...
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-17-2020, 11:04 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 984
Posted By UnderPressure
What do you mean by “if there is a conflict”? ...

What do you mean by “if there is a conflict”?

By being careful about march break and Easter do you mean to include those in the rotation?

Thank you very much for sharing your experience. How...
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-17-2020, 10:59 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 686
Posted By UnderPressure
I will do that thank you. I was thinking of...

I will do that thank you. I was thinking of introducing it ahead of time but I would rather have the mediator put it forward. Much more likely to work that way.
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-17-2020, 06:41 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 984
Posted By UnderPressure
This is excellent detail thank you. How do...

This is excellent detail thank you.

How do you handle it when special occasions/holidays conflict with regular schedule? How do you divide up December 24-Jan 2nd? Curious what others have done...
Forum: Divorce Support 02-17-2020, 06:26 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 786
Posted By UnderPressure
Glad it worked out for you. With children and...

Glad it worked out for you. With children and significant assets it’s not something I am comfortable doing on my own. Plus spouse is already lawyered up so that isn’t happening.


Sent from my...
Forum: Financial Issues 02-17-2020, 06:24 PM
Replies: 32
Views: 2,272
Posted By UnderPressure
Thank you so much! I hadn’t considered CCB yet...

Thank you so much! I hadn’t considered CCB yet and this is great information.

What if I apply for it as shared custody but my ex does not apply? Will CRA adjust hers or deny mine if she doesn’t do...
Forum: Financial Issues 02-16-2020, 10:44 AM
Replies: 32
Views: 2,272
Posted By UnderPressure
Makes it simple since the youngest are twins - so...

Makes it simple since the youngest are twins - so we can each claim one by name and it doesn't matter who claims the older of the three.


Can anyone think of any reason why it might matter who...
Forum: Parenting Issues 02-16-2020, 08:23 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 686
Posted By UnderPressure
Smile Coparenting app experience

Hello,


As I approach separation and am already experiencing scheduling conflict I am researching app platforms to use with my spouse. I would appreciate any feedback or things learned by those...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 02-15-2020, 08:02 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 2,688
Posted By UnderPressure
I’d say it should be parent but its not confusing...

I’d say it should be parent but its not confusing enough to cause a problem. Wrong word but no one would confuse the meaning to be the new spouses of the parents.
Forum: Financial Issues 02-15-2020, 07:58 PM
Replies: 32
Views: 2,272
Posted By UnderPressure
But what language?

Oh so as long as we each get one it’s ok.

What language would work and what language will cause me a problem with the CRA later on? As long as we detail specifically that mom gets to claim Fred...
Forum: Financial Issues 02-14-2020, 11:36 PM
Replies: 32
Views: 2,272
Posted By UnderPressure
So as someone starting mediation with an agreed...

So as someone starting mediation with an agreed 50/50 custody and parenting and an even split of assets what do I want to ensure is in the agreement that ensures this is solid and that one parent...
Forum: Divorce Support 02-13-2020, 08:55 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 786
Posted By UnderPressure
/narrator “And that was to be their undoing”

/narrator “And that was to be their undoing”
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